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Despite all the information on how to care and style natural hair, there are essential aspects that are commonly overlooked. Some of the basic terminology that is casually spoken by seasoned naturals usually leave the newly naturals confused and trying to figure out what they mean. Can you go into a forum without someone asking countless times what a pre-poo is? Yes I know the feeling, but if you are on the outside looking in, you feel alienated and when someone gets blasted for repetitively asking the same questions, it discourages others from asking.
BC
Big Chop or BC is cutting the relaxed hair as a means of allowing your natural texture to grow out. It is not a trim or a regular haircut but a way to remove all relaxed hair. Now, many veteran naturals will do a second or even a third BC but the term it usually used in the context of initially going natural and discontinue relaxing.
Nicole Kidman truly understands this selfless love that is stronger than her fears or dislikes. The Oscar-winning actress has naturally curly ringlets, but in past years has not appreciated nor shared them. She use to loathed them but has begun to embrace and rock her ringlets for the sake of her three-year-old daughter, Faith, who shares those same ringlets. You see, her daughter Faith prefers her mother to wear her hair like hers and as simple of a request as that…what mother could resist? It’s easy to see why Kidman saw the error of her ways in hating her curls and how it can affect how her daughter views her own hair. This very same situation is happening to mothers and daughters in the natural hair movement and many mothers have begun to take heed and follow suit.
More women are embracing their natural curls, coils, and waves. So many of us in the past have bought into the notion that our hair wasn’t good enough in its natural state. We thought It wasn’t beautiful without chemicals or excessive straightening, but then realized and accepted the reality that we possess beauty from within and then our confidence began to spread. That confidence and pride creates a kinship we now hold with our daughters. Not long ago these same women would have been relaxed and the hair of their daughters would have not resembled theirs. Now we see a closeness between mother and child, and as a daughter literally and figuratively looks up to her mother she can fully see the commonality between them. This becomes reinforcement of who she will become and who she already loves begins to solidify. If you want your daughter to love herself, then you must love yourself first, internally and externally.
We are our children’s first teachers and they are learning well before they even hit a classroom. They learn from us and are shaped by how we are and what we do. By loving our natural hair we are telling our daughters and sons that a woman’s natural features need not be altered to encompass beauty. Our natural tresses are stand-alone gorgeous features that only reflect and enhance our inner beauty. Remember, every little girl wants to grow up to look like her mommy and every little boy thinks his mother is beautiful. Make sure the message you are sending your children is one you can be proud that they cling to for guidance. Self-love is learned and what better way for our children to learn than from their mothers who love themselves completely.
If you are a curly then you’ve probably already heard of keratin treatments. They are different from relaxers but aside from that, how much do you really know? Many, including my daughter, have tried it with much success and loved it. In a natural nutshell, a keratin treatment is not the big bad relaxing wolf, but rather a good alternative to smooth out your curly tresses.
Keratin treatments are a semi-permanent hair smoothing system and not a straightener! They infuse the hair with keratin protein to keep it smooth and protected. Once the keratin treatment is applied, then the hair is straightened with a flat iron to seal in the treatment. Again, it does not straighten the hair but rather smooth it out and make straightening easier. They will allow you to straighten your hair quicker and easier while eliminating frizz. Yes, that means in humid climates as well. Calm down curlies, it’s only temporary ladies!
Now, with any process done to the hair there is upkeep and one major component is using the right products to maintain the treatment for as long as possible. One priority component is using the correct shampoo, a keratin shampoo that is specifically formulated to extend the life of your treatment. Using a regular shampoo will only quickly wash away your treatment, and your money will go down the drain with it.
Here are our top picks for keratin shampoos:
One ‘n Only Brazilian Tech Smoothing Shampoo
This smoothing shampoo was formulated to keep your tresses nourished, shiny, and smooth. It’s a high-performance shampoo that restores your hair’s keratin that gets lost during daily styling and color treatments.
We live in an extremely superficial society. How we look to others means everything, and it’s even more pronounced against women. This desire to look young, skinny, pretty, and sexy is pressed upon us as little girls, and it continues until we just don’t care anymore. I may be taking the cynical route in this discussion, but as this natural hair movement continues to harness momentum, more women of color are discovering beauty within themselves that they never saw before.
Our natural hair has been linked to our childhood when most of us were still in pigtails and our mothers were taking care of our hair. By the time most of us were able to take on that task we were relaxed and getting the press and curls while admiring and wanting straight hair. It’s nothing to be ashamed of desiring straight hair. Straight hair was (and in many circles still is”> the epitome of beauty; a Eurocentric standard no less, but a standard that is crumbling under the weight of self-love and acceptance. So, is embracing your natural texture as easy as we say it is?
Nothing is simply black and white in this world and that also goes with natural hair and its tiers of beauty standards. That just means within the natural hair community we still see some hair textures as more beautiful than others. Curly hair is considered more beautiful than tightly coiled hair. This superficial division is as disheartening and damaging as colorism and unfortunately, wishing it away is as fruitful as playing the Powerball for your retirement plan. It’s not going to work. Only by digging into the psyche of women with coily hair can we identify why we have to make a distinction of what is “more beautiful” is even necessary.
So I ask again… Must all women with curly and coily hair accept and love her tresses?
Yes, they must but hear me out before you roll your eyes and assume I am saying something so obvious but accompanied with no solutions to this problem.
- Do not beat yourself up over not liking your natural texture. It takes time to shatter the false perception of a solitary type of beauty and then to pick up the pieces to see the broad spectrum of beauty.
- Do not stick to someone else’s timetable on when you should accept your own texture. Learn to work with your hair and find the right products to keep it healthy.
- Do not covet the hair texture of others, as it will not lead to loving and accepting your own texture. Hair envy is a slippery slope and not a positive step in your natural hair journey. Find examples of naturals with hair texture similar to your own and watch them love their tresses.
- Do remember that this journey is a personal one, so know that loving your tresses is the only way to have a successful natural hair transition.
- Do look to YouTubers with who share your texture to learn styles, methods, and products that will guide you in the right direction.
- Do learn to love yourself completely, as self-love and acceptance will make your world a bright place to live and share with others. You will have to love your natural hair texture. Even if it takes you longer than others, realize your beauty is just waiting to be loved and admired by you.
About the author: Sabrina, founder of seriouslynatural.org and contributor to several online publications, is a freelance writer who engages her audiences on the relevance of natural hair, beauty, and style.
Frizz is such a sore topic to naturals that just mentioning it will cause an eye-rolling. It’s the devil, right? Well, maybe…but what exactly is frizz? Frizz is the muddled tangling of hairs that create volume and makes you look like you’ve stuck your finger in a light socket. It’s the opposite of smoothness and since straight hair is the winner on looking smooth, most coilies and curlies “deal” with frizz to a greater degree.
Beautiful Benefits and Looks of Frizz
Tea tree oil is nature’s wonder essential oil. It’s a natural healing agent and antiseptic that’s extracted from a tree (Melaleuca alternifolia”> found in South Wales, Australia. Now, many know about the great uses it has for cuts and scrapes, but the benefits of tea tree oil for our tresses are vast. From relieving dandruff to scalp fungus and cleansing, the word is out and many hair care product lines are formulating products with tea tree oil just for you! More and more products are popping up with essential oils like tea tree oil and we’ve compiled a list of top 20 so you don’t have to wonder.
EDEN BodyWorks Peppermint Tea Tree Shampoo
A NaturallyCurly’s 2014 Editor’s Choice for a good reason, as this shampoo increases circulation to the scalp, alleviates a dry, flaky scalp, and cleanses with tea tree oil and peppermint botanicals.
PHOTO CREDIT: KESHIA
Your natural hair journey is a personal one. Everyone’s path is different and your journey will be as positive or negative as you want it to be. Attitude is everything. If you are seeing this as a lifestyle change, you will make it through with flying colors. Having a negative perspective and attitude will only cause you to concentrate on your failures. In order to achieve greatness during your journey, there are valuable lessons to learn early.Be Patient
Patience is your key to success. If you don’t have patience you will not make it alive in general and you definitely won’t last on your natural hair journey. Expecting to know what to do with your transitioning hair is dangerous, as most of us are still in relaxed hair mode and the two textures couldn’t be more different! Reading about different techniques and products are essential.
Also, it takes time to find the right routine to achieve healthy hair so if length is your main objective, then trying every hair growing notion (Monistat, inversion method, bull semen“> will have you frustrated, broke, and potentially hindering your growth. Take the time to learn and understand your hair, what it needs, and which products it responds well to. Nothing great is mastered within a few days so expect the same from your natural hair.
Every Curl is Different
Everyone does not have the same texture, live in the same climate, or have the same genes. We are all unique and within that uniqueness we may have some similarities, but there are so many contributing factors to hair texture that it’s common for biological sisters to not share the same curl pattern, porosity level, strand width, and density.
Learning what your hair needs will require trial and error, and if you choose to follow bloggers or vloggers to learn their favorite products or techniques, be certain you have similar hair textures and that you live in similar climates. Drier climates require different products than climates with a higher humidity. Someone living with alopecia will have very different concerns than someone with psoriasis.
The verdict is still out on whether you need to know your curl pattern to take care of your hair, but knowing your hair’s porosity is definitely important. Knowledge of ingredients and various products is important as well. The only way to do either is to listen to how your hair responds to different techniques and products.
QUIZ: What’s Your Curl Pattern?
Your Hair Changes
Your hair will go through changes. When I first went natural my texture was very different than it is now and it was different again a year later, and it is even more different today! When you have to deal with transitioning, aging, and hormones, it all takes a toll on your hair and what it’s trying to do. Know that, accept it, and roll with the punches.
We all grow and change and so will your hair, so expect the changes and embrace them. Sometimes it may be illness and aging that create stress, so accept the challenges that life may throw at you.
Love Your Texture!
Love your curls, coils, and waves! Yes, to love your hair in its natural state is to love yourself and once you have accepted your hair and what it can do, you will have brighter days and happier hair. Hating what is naturally growing out of your head is detrimental to having a positive natural hair journey, and hair envy is nothing to be stuck on. It’s great to see another natural and admire their hair, but try not to get hung up on coveting someone else’s hair when you have your own beautiful tresses to admire. Love, nurture, and be kind to your hair and it will grow. See the pattern?
When you find beauty within yourself (and that includes your hair”>, your perspective on life changes and you see the world as a wonderful place to thrive. Your hair needs the same outlook so accepting your tresses and nurturing them will give you happy, healthy hair.
I ask because there are some women with naturally curly hair who only wear their hair straight…I’m talking 95% of the time. Now, I’m not trying to call them out or even label them as insecure, but what is the point of being natural if you are always altering the state of your hair? A lot of naturals hate shrinkage. Your intertwined curls and coils can be a pain to detangle and also cause you to believe that you are not retaining length. I remember when my mother asked why my hair wasn’t growing when all she had to do was pull one of my coils and she would have her answer. Our hair’s temperament can be discouraging sometimes.
I wonder if I’m asking too much of my straight styled ladies and not taking an inner peek at myself. I prefer the big, wild, out of control coils that behave instinctively to nature. I no longer wear my hair straight and no longer care if others can see my growth and length. This is my preference. Is the choice to stay straight merely a fondness for sleek hair or a lack of fully embracing their natural hair texture?
There is a push back from some that feel straight hair is more attractive and more professional, but as we embark on a natural hair revolution that is attracting the attention of the fashion world, don’t we owe it to all curlies to embrace our natural texture and flaunt it? I know that may seem extreme or potentially earn me the title of “natural hair Nazi”, but by allowing our hair to be its own we force others to accept our beauty. Our beauty is not to be diminished and watered down, and by constantly straightening our hair aren’t we just diminishing its essence?
I dance around the idea that some succumb to the pressure to fit in, but I acknowledge it may be a strong push to conform. I do not buckle under that weight, but I also have no one telling me my shrinkage is something that needs to be “corrected” or that visibly longer hair is more desirable. Even my mother didn’t understand the nature of my hair, which is very different from someone making you feel your tresses are ugly or unacceptable. I know my path is not seared with negativity which may be the reality of others.
So I ask you, the straight-haired natural: Is straight hair merely a styling option? Do you consider it to be more beautiful? Do you feel more confident with straight hair? Share your story.
As we get deep into 2014, the priority of many is to defrost from the polar vortex. For the past two months, all that many could think about was how to stay dry, hydrated, and warm, and that included our hair. Now we can finally step back and see past the frigid snow to think of spring and summer hairstyles to rock.
We sprang forward a little while ago and now have longer sunlit days to look cute and sassy. Many of us are stuck in a winter-wear-hair rut so your creativity may be a little stale and out of practice. You probably need a push to get you in the mood for spring and there’s no better way to spruce up your look than rocking the latest and greatest hairstyle of the year!
Not every year starts off with an ‘it’ hairstyle for naturals but we had no problem figuring out who was the leader this year…Lupita! Whether she rocked a TWA, fade, an accented deep part, and even straightened her coils, Lupita Nyong’o swooned us early on with her ever-changing TWA. She paired her evolving hair with gorgeous gowns that stole the red carpet and wowed all the fashion critics who were left craving for more. If her regal looks taught us nothing else this year, it allowed us to realize the TWA is versatile, sexy, hot, and the look of 2014!
So many women fear going natural because of the misconception that they must big chop (BC”>. Granted the long-term transitioning can be a challenge, many women fear short hair. Some feel it’s less feminine or even limited in styling. With Lupita reminding us how that couldn’t be further from the truth, I think we’ll see more women going for the bolder TWA cuts whether they are newbies or just cutting it all off for the sake of style. Just thinking outside the box is the best way to realize the endless ways a TWA can be rocked.
Adding color, highlights, hair chalk, accessories, comb coiling, or doing a blowing out on your TWA are just a few ways to break out of your winter shell this spring. It’s time for spring break, prom, and vacation and what better way to be wherever you have to go quicker with a pixie cut, TWA, or fade? Lupita also taught me how our sexy bodies can be a part of the style, as her beautiful frame made her look come alive, and her hair just showcased her beauty. A curly should never feel length is necessary when it comes to sex appeal and I think many are finally listening.
So mark my words…2014 will see a mad rush to the salons as many women will see the potential of the TWA, fade, and pixie cut. A short look is so fresh and funky for spring, and adding a bold color would only make it sizzle. Don’t sleep on the TWA naturals…you don’t want to be left behind.
If your hair continues to feel dry after consistently applying moisturizers, oils, and styling products, it is a sign
that your curls need to be cleansed. I know it sounds backwards, but when your curls don’t seem to absorb any of the
products you are applying, clarifying shampoos are necessary to remove the severe build-up of product, dirt, and oil
in order for your strands to absorb moisture. Sometimes moisturizing shampoos or cleansing conditioners do not cleanse
effectively enough.
Clarifying shampoos should be used sparingly in a curly hair regimen, as they can dry out your hair and strip it of the necessary oils, but if you are using heavy products or notice your hair has become limp or lifeless, it may be time for a thorough cleaning. Don’t get me wrong; some curlies have eliminated shampoos because they no longer use a lot of heavy products that contain ingredients like silicones and even mineral oil. If your freshly washed hair feels sticky or coated, you should try a clarifying shampoo.
What is a clarifying shampoo?
The main ingredients in many clarifying shampoos are surfactants. Surfactants are used to remove dirt and oil from the hair. Many clarifying shampoos contain tea tree oil, peppermint oil, or eucalyptus oil for their cleansing and anti-bacterial properties that help to aid scalp conditions. Here’s our top 20 clarifying shampoos.
20 Gentle Clarifying Shampoos
Humidity is the devil to a natural. Ok, some naturals like it, but for most of us, humidity can make our hair expand and shrink to disastrous proportions.
Humidity refers to the amount of water vapor or moisture in the air. An anti-humidity product or an anti-humectant product is a moisture blocker and therefore decreases the potential for frizz and reversion if your hair is straightened.
It may seem odd since most naturals need and want hydration, but sometimes we don’t need the extra moisture that the weather can bring.
What makes anti-humectants work and what ingredients to look for
There are several components that contribute to the effectiveness of anti-humectants, but the anti-humectants that most curlies are familiar with are silicones. Silicones get a bad rap within the natural hair community, but they actually serve a valuable purpose for naturals in several ways. Most silicones are not water-soluble so they prevent the moisture in the air from penetrating your hair shaft and causing your strands to expand and contract; this helps when you do not want your twist-out, braid-outs, straight hair, and just about any stretched style to expand, shrink, and lose definition!
Other ingredients that actually fight off humidity are ester, palm oil, beeswax, and shea butter.
20 Frizz-Fighting Products
Many feel the most beautiful women in the world are fashion models. They are tall, thin, and gorgeous women who tear up the runway sporting the finest apparel that only stars can afford. They are snotty, haute, sexy, and for most of our fashion history, have predominately been white. The diversity in the fashion world is starting to increase with women of various hues showing off the most exquisite styles each season.
Despite more black women striking glamorous poses in magazines and strutting the runway, the majority of them wear long-hair wigs and tight weaves on top of chemically straightened hair. Well, here are stunning women who have backed away from the chemicals and are embracing their natural tresses.
10 Models with Natural Hair
PHOTO CREDIT: LILITH MOON
Let’s not do what we did last year with getting your lovely hair straightened, shall we? It’s been overdone. You want all eyes on you and you’ve got the tresses to make that happen. Volume, curl definition, fighting off humidity, and long-lasting hold – there are products for that.
But the most important beauty transformation tips we can give actually come from within. Here’s how to be your most beautiful self at prom.
Be Yourself
Everyone else is taken, so it’s time to be the beautiful curly girl that makes you unique. No one wants to wear the same dress so why would you want to have the same tired hairstyle that other young ladies will be sporting? Straight hair is supposed to look sleek, but it has the tendency to look dull with no life or volume. It’s also supposed to look sexy, but by the end of the night it just looks limp. Uh huh, we can do better than that. Allow your hair personality and curls to shine all night long. All you need are the right products!
Be Your Curls
Anyone can have straight hair. Yes, they can. Got a flat iron? Got a salon for a Brazilian? Your curls, coils, and waves are too gorgeous and amazing to process with damaging relaxers. You don’t have to hide or change them because there is a special occasion. I encourage you to do the contrary. This is the time to dazzle all those amazing styles that you have seen on your favorite curly girl sites, models, and vloggers on YouTube. You have the hair most women dream of (yes, they do”> so make them stare, gawk, and drool with envy as you stun the prom with your curls, coils, and waves.
Make ‘em big with volume for days! Put them in a messy (but sexy”> bun as a top knot or chignon. Rock a funky fro hawk or try an elegant updo with waterfall curls all over. There is too much character in your curls to straighten them for prom. They have too much personality and glam just like you.
Be Your Own Kind of Beautiful
Beauty comes from within and when you accept your tresses you can begin to understand them; and with that understanding you can nurture it to be as beautiful as you. Don’t hide your curls and surely don’t fry them. Let them out to play for prom and embrace their individuality. No one wants to be a carbon copy and no woman is more beautiful than when she’s in love with her own essence. It’s time to love your curls, coils, and waves and make prom a memorable and exceptional night!
It’s no secret that sometimes we have to work a little harder to get our curly hair to do what we want, and with events like prom and weddings approaching, and we’re here to take the worry out of your prom prep. Here are 10 products that will make your gorgeous prom ‘do stay all night!
11 Products for Lasting Prom Hairstyles
When you first start wearing your hair naturally curly the idea is to follow certain rules that will prevent damage and make your journey back to natural easier. There are others who have taken this road before you and are kind enough to share the tips, tricks and rules that garnered them positive results. It’s a good approach to take but as you learn new things, you learn to distinguish the absolutely necessary from the not-so-necessary and even the damaging. It’s ok to veer off from the path if it’s beneficial, and it’s certainly ok to try new techniques. The object is to find what works for you and develop your own best practices.
Not everyone has the same routine, rules, hair type, porosity, thickness, and other contributing factors to hair care. You get the idea so understand the goal is to do what works for you. Although we have differences, there are some steps that most of us can forgo occasionally or eliminate completely.
PHOTO CREDIT: MARC BAPTISTE
Nappy was never a word you wanted to hear or be associated with when I was growing up. I’m a part of Generation X, the latch-key kids, Atari players, the generation after the baby boomers. If you were born between 1965 and 1980, you are a part of Generation X.
It’s safe to say that as a black child in this generation, your hair was either pressed or relaxed. Having natural hair (or what we called nappy hair”> was unacceptable and made you an easy prey for ridicule. There was no alternative. You had to straighten your hair in some way and if your hair was not funky, fresh laid, you were bound to get teased. Negative labels were hurled from the classmates and playmates who had learned them from their mothers, aunts, and grandmothers. Nappy was not a sentimental word used to tell little girls how unique and beautiful their hair was.
Forgive me for not being politically correct, but this is my past and it’s something I never want to relive. As I continue to fall in love with my natural hair, I had long forgotten the ugliness of the word and what it meant. I forgot about being teased for my kitchen (hair at the nape”> being nappy or my new growth sticking out begging to be “tamed”. As a woman who is proud of her natural hair, the painful remnants of those memories began to resurface when younger generations started reclaiming the word nappy.
I don’t like the word. I cannot. Since everything you experience as a child is magnified from the impression of your psyche, it’s difficult to embrace a word that was originally fueled with negativity. You want me to like that word? Really? Maybe I could have embraced nappy if it wasn’t used as a tool to inflict shame and reinforce an inferior beauty complex. I understand the desire to reclaim it and repurpose it as something beautiful, but the negative sentiment is ingrained in me. I love curls, coils, and even kinks but the naps? Love the naps? Sigh I cannot and please do not judge me for that, as some words cannot be reclaimed.Take my parents for example: they are baby boomers who grew up with extremely negatively charged words that I cannot expect them to get past and accept. A word with such diversity and beauty was turned into something ugly…colored. That word means very little to me, but the word carries the memories of segregation that had a relentless chokehold on this country and minorities. For them to embrace that word would be asking too much, because it was used to symbolize and perpetuate hate so I get it…I really do. So I’m asking Generation Y, give me this pass on the word nappy because like my parents, I can’t get past it.
Love it, embrace it, nurture it, say it, and reclaim it as your own, but please do not expect me to do the same. I tried, I really did but the pain runs too deep for me to give a degrading word a new warm sentiment. I’m a Generation X kind of woman and as easily as African American can roll off the tongues of Generation Y, I feel more accustom and accepting of the word black. It’s not negative or disrespectful to me, but I am of another generation and my truth is not the same as yours. We can have dissimilar truths and still be in love with our natural hair. We can have a different pasts and still enjoy our curls and coils. We can share the word nappy, but understand and accept that it holds separate places in everyone’s hair journey.
Sabrina, founder of seriouslynatural.org and contributor to several online publications, is a freelance writer who engages her audiences on the relevance of natural hair, beauty, and style.
Do you agree with reclaiming or repurposing the word nappy? Share your thoughts and experiences!
I love being natural. Most women who have stopped chemically altering their hair texture will share the same sentiment, but even with all the greatness there are some drawbacks.
How many can say they love the time it takes to do their hair? Not many if you are spending painstaking hours twisting, curling, braiding, washing, detangling, dusting, or straightening.
Natural hair takes preparation and I’m not saying relaxed hair doesn’t but there are some simpler routines and techniques for relaxed hair that are not effective with natural hair. All it takes is preparation, skill, and patience for practices that reduce style and maintenance time.