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My name is Raquel, but my nickname is Rocky, and my channel on YouTube is RockynCurls. I live near Nashville, TN, and I am a medical laboratory scientist. I perform blood work and molecular infectious disease testing at Vanderbilt University Medical Center.
My hair type: wavy-curly (type 2c/3a”>, high porosity
I never knew my hair was curly. It turned poofy and wavy when I was a pre-teen; my mom would brush and blow-dry it till it became frizzy and straight. I met a Panamanian woman who taught me it was wavy and curly and how to use mousse and spray gel. I liked my hair much better, but I didn’t like how the products made my hair feel sticky, and how I had that “wet gelled down” look. I could not wait to wash them out. When I finally figured out how to flat iron it, I enjoyed that; but it always took over an hour to do, so I always had it in a bun.
One day, I styled it with mousse.
Then I went to the zoo with some friends, and after hitting the humidity, my hair no longer looked nice. It looked like a frizzy mess. Everyone else looked nice, but my hair looked terrible, even though I thought it had looked nice when I left home.
I thought, you know what, I have read books on how to do lots of things, but never one about how to care for wavy and curly hair. It takes up so much time in my life styling it straight. I think I should research how to take care of it curly!
I went on Amazon and foundCurly Girl: The Handbook by Lorraine Massey. I was so excited after seeing the five-star reviews, I could not wait for the book to come, and downloaded it onto my Kindle app on my iPhone to read the whole thing right away. All the stories and problems in the book felt like she was writing about my story, and to me personally. It took me several weeks to transition, and my hair was very oily and frizzy at first, but it started looking better. Slowly, my oily scalp calmed down; and I have never looked back.
My biggest hair issue: frizz
I use tons of conditioner. I also use moisturizing products with moisturizing oils in the ingredients, like shea butter to seal so my hair isn’t dry. That way, it doesn’t need to reach up to the air for moisture and frizz. I use hard-hold gel to keep the frizz at bay and help hold up my waves. I can use conditioner only, or leave-in and gel, and get good results. However, for the best results, I do the LCEG method from spring to fall, which is:
L- Leave-in conditioner
C- Cream
E- Enhancing gel
G- hard hold gel
In the winter, I do the LOCG Method:
L- Leave-in
O- Oil
C- Cream
G- Hard hold gel
My hair is also curly, so I need the extra moisture from cream and leave-in. I cowash with silicone-free conditioner or use sulfate-free shampoo and then I condition with silicone free-conditioner. I rinse it off of the scalp (or it is oily and flat”> but leave the rest in the length of my hair. I flip my head down and re-apply conditioner as my leave-in and squish to condish with water in the shower until the curls are clumped nicely.
Sometimes I apply more leave-in after getting out of the shower, and this is my leave-in step. I then use a cream, curl enhancing gel, then a hard hold gel. I scrunch out water with a microfiber towel, plop, then clip and diffuse, or sit under my hooded dryer. I also pineapple in my hooded dryer for extra volume. I have a video on that as well.
Products/methods that have helped me embrace my texture
I have porous, coarse hair, so SheaMoisture Curl and Style Milk is my favorite leave-in conditioner. SheaMoisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie is my favorite curl cream. Kinky Curly Curling Custard is my favorite curl enhancing gel and LA Looks Extreme Spikes is my favorite hard hold gel. I love these so much! I use them for the LCEG method and always get good results. I can get away with a lot of different conditioners and co-washes, but I mostly love SheaMoisture. I love DevaCurl B’Leave-in and DevaCurl Supercream Coconut Styler as well. I do not use any more sulfates, silicones, or drying alcohols as recommended in Curly Girl Method.
Since practicing The CG Method…
My hair is curlier, less frizzy, shinier, softer, healthier, more manageable, less oily, less tangled and easier to deal with. I only have to wash it every two to four days. Before, my hair was so frizzy, and I had a very oily scalp. I had to wash my hair up to twice a day because it was so oily. Once I stopped the sulfates, it became less oily.
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Have any tips to share that you know of or personally use to avoid the ‘wet gelled down’ look? Share them with us in the comments below!
I use tons of conditioner and moisturizing products with ingredients like shea butter to seal so my hair isn’t dry. That way, it doesn’t need to reach up to the air for moisture and frizz.
My name is Raquel, but my nickname is Rocky, and my channel on YouTube is RockynCurls. I live near Nashville, TN, and I am a medical laboratory scientist. I perform blood work and molecular infectious disease testing at Vanderbilt University Medical Center.
My hair type: wavy-curly (type 2c/3a”>, high porosity
I never knew my hair was curly. It turned poofy and wavy when I was a pre-teen; my mom would brush and blow-dry it till it became frizzy and straight. I met a Panamanian lady who taught me it was wavy and curly, and how to use mousse and spray gel. I liked my hair much better, but not how the products made my hair feel sticky, and I had that “wet gelled down” look. I could not wait to wash them out. When I finally figured out how to flat iron it, I enjoyed that; but it always took over an hour to do, so I always had it in a bun.
One day, I styled it with mousse.
Then I went to the zoo with some friends, and after hitting the humidity, my hair no longer looked nice. It looked like a frizzy mess. Everyone else looked nice, but my hair looked terrible, even though it was fine when I had first left home.
I thought, you know what, I have read books on how to do lots of things, but never one about how to care for wavy and curly hair. It takes up so much time in my life styling it straight. I think I should research how to take care of it curly!
I went on Amazon and found Curly Girl: The Handbook by Lorraine Massey. I was so excited after seeing the five star reviews, I could not wait for the book to come! As soon as it did, I downloaded it onto my kindle app on my iPhone to read the whole thing right away. All the stories and problems in the book felt like they were my story. It took me several weeks to transition, and my hair was very oily and frizzy at first, but it started looking better. Slowly, my oily scalp calmed down; and I have never looked back.
My biggest hair issue: frizz
I use tons of conditioner. I also use moisturizing products with moisturizing oils in the ingredients, like shea butter, to seal so my hair isn’t dry. That way, it doesn’t need to reach up to the air for moisture and frizz. I use hard hold gel to keep the frizz at bay and help hold up my waves. I can use conditioner only, or leave-in and gel, and get good results. However, for the best results, I do the LCEG method from spring to fall, which is:
- L- Leave-in conditioner
- C- Cream
- E- Enhancing gel
- G- Hard hold gel
In the winter, I do the LOCG Method:
- L- Leave-in
- O- Oil
- C- Cream
- G- Hard hold gel
My hair is also curly, so I need the extra moisture from cream and leave-in. I cowash with silicone-free conditioner, or use sulfate-free shampoo, and then I condition with silicone-free conditioner. I rinse it off of the scalp (or else it gets oily and flat”>, but leave the rest in the length of my hair. I flip my head down, and re-apply conditioner as my leave-in with my ears down, and squish to condish with water in the shower until the curls are clumped nicely.
Sometimes, I apply more leave-in after getting out of the shower, and this is my leave-in step. I then use a cream, curl enhancing gel, then a hard hold gel. Next, I scrunch out the water with a microfiber towel, plop, then clip and diffuse, or sit in my hooded dryer. I also pineapple in my hooded dryer for extra volume.
Products/methods that have helped me embrace my texture
I have porous, coarse hair, so SheaMoisture Curl and Style Milk is my favorite leave in conditioner. SheaMoisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie is my favorite curl cream. Kinky Curly Curling Custard is my favorite curl enhancing gel, and LA Looks Extreme Spikes is my favorite hard hold gel. I love these so much! I use them for the LCEG method and always get good results. I can get away with a lot of different conditioners and co-washes, but I mostly love SheaMoisture. I love DevaCurl B’Leave-in and DevaCurl Supercream Coconut Styler as well. I do not use any more sulfates, silicones and drying alcohols, as recommended in the Curly Girl Method.
Since practicing The CG Method…
It is curlier, less frizzy, shinier, softer, healthier, more manageable, less oily, less tangled and easier to deal with. I only have to wash it every two to four days. Before my hair was so frizzy, and I had a very oily scalp. I had to wash my hair up to twice a day because it was so oily. Once I stopped the sulfates, it became less oily.
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This article was originally published in 2016 and has been updated for clarity.What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
To be honest, growing up with textured hair was hard on me. Sadly, I started hating my hair at a very young age. I was in elementary school and I remember it like it was yesterday. I was in fourth grade and there were a lot of girls in my class with silky long straight hair so that made me feel like a complete outcast. Girls in my class would ask me why was my hair so big and bushy? They’d laugh and say I should straighten it immediately! It wasn’t until the 5th-grade year I begged my father if I could get a perm. Thinking to myself that would make my hair permanently straight forever. So he agreed and it wasn’t until the next day that I realized I had made a huge mistake and damaged my curls up big time.
What made you decide to embrace your naturally wavy hair?
I started embracing my naturally curly/wavy hair end of 2017. I honestly can’t remember the last time I straightened my hair. When I started realizing that it wasn’t my hair that was too much, but instead it was people’s opinions of my hair, that was too much. I knew I needed to embrace more of who I am — not anyone else’s opinions on my hair! So that’s when I decided to embrace my naturally curly/wavy hair.
How have your family, friends, and co-workers reacted? What was your response to them?
My family and friends have been super supportive of my natural hair. They were always curious about what I am using on my hair and how I apply and use the products. Never once have they ever made me feel different or judged me about my hair care journey. So I thank them for that because it was definitely hard growing up being known as the girl with big, bushy hair.
How did you transition to wearing your natural texture?
Something I would always do around my birthday was give myself a big chop. Plus I love having short hair from time to time. So every year around May, whenever I would get my hair done, I would cut it then have the salon straighten it. That was also something that made me realize that I was wasting a lot of time and especially money on getting my hair done. So I learned how to cut my natural hair myself and from there I also stop putting heat on my hair and started wearing my hair in its natural state.
What is your current hair regimen?
I like to keep my hair care regimen really simple. I don’t like to shampoo my hair a lot, but when I do I like to use shampoos that are sulfate-free and paraben-free. I stick to shampoos that act like cleansers because I love the feeling of having clean hair without it being stripped of its natural oils. I shampoo once a week, on Monday just so I can start the week with fresh clean hair. During the week, I’ll use products to co-wash my hair and then move on to conditioners, deep conditioners, and mask. Some of my fave products to do all that are Aussie Miracle Curls Co-wash Conditioning Cleanser, DevaCurl Heaven In Hair Deep Conditioner and Shea moisture Manuka Honey and Mafura Oil Intensive Hydration Hair Masque. I really love that mask, especially for days when my hair feels really dry.
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a big impact on the way your hair looks?
When it comes to some techniques and methods, I really only have one and that’s splitting my hair down the middle and working with one half and then the other. It helps me save a lot of time because I don’t section my hair in pieces. Then once I’m done applying all of my products, I either let my hair stay split down the middle so it can air dry or I’ll style it. It really depends on what look I want to go for that day. But when it’s split down the middle, I love how my hair turns out more voluminous.
Any advice you’d like to give other women who may be in the transition phase or need some encouragement in their hair journey?
For all the girls and women out there who are transitioning, please remember that it’s a process. Everything in life takes time and it won’t happen overnight. I’m still learning new things about my hair every day. So don’t be discouraged and give up, because with faith and dedication it will happen. I used to think my hair was damaged forever from all the heat I applied to it over the years, but I soon saw that wasn’t the case and decided to make a change. I gave up flat irons, curling irons, and salons 100% and never looked back and that’s what worked for me. I’m not saying to never go to a salon for haircuts or a trim, but in my past experiences when I went I was just doing more damage than good. Just know your hair journey will be an adventure for the better and it will be something you’ll want to share with everyone around the world.
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Image: @aseamae
What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
Growing up, my hair was always referred to as nappy. When I was 4, I got my first relaxer. My earliest memories of getting my hair done are of hot combs and the ”Just for Me” box. I never really knew much about my hair texture. I just came to understand that it was unacceptable.
What made you decide to embrace your naturally coily hair?
Initially I didn’t like my texture because it looked nothing like my favorite natural hair gurus. I did all the natural hair treatments (cherry lola treatments, coconut oil relaxer, and henna”> to try to loosen my curl pattern and get my hair to “hang”. It took time for me to fall in love with my texture and fully embrace the way it looks, but it all began with me learning the unique things I can do with my texture. At the time, I stopped trying to recreate styles from women with looser curl patterns than I have, and I found inspiration from women who had hair like mine. It really helped me to see the beauty in my hair texture and to stop envying the curl patterns that I do not have.
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
The hardest times have been when my hair was in need of protein. Before I knew how to recognize it, I would be really frustrated with the fact that my hair is acting differently and that I wasn’t retaining length. I would end up having to cut 3-4 inches off of my hair simply because of the damage that occurred from me not balancing my hair with moisture and protein.
How do you protect your curls at night?
I sleep on a satin pillowcase or use a satin bonnet.
Who is your curl crush?
I get inspired by a lot of natural hair queens, but Safiya Aisha really helped me to learn to love my natural hair texture. A few of my current faves are @IKnowLee, @Hazel_Goddesss, @SashaBasha2, and @JascoloredCurls.
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
Recently, my microwavable heat cap for deep conditioning. It’s been a lifesaver in the times I don’t feel like hooking up my steamer.
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
My current regimen is shampoo, deep condition with indirect heat or steam, leave-in conditioner, styler/gel, and then an oil. Recently I have been loving the Jane Carter Curls To Go line and the As I Am Dry and Itchy Scalp Cowash. Texture ID is also a favorite. I love their deep conditioner and it’s a really affordable brand.
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
My most recent cut and color have been one of the most empowering experiences in my journey thus far. I decided to cut and color my hair for the first time to have fun and experience the freedom of being creative with my look. I was very caught up in having long hair and I believed that my influence, beauty, and value was solely rooted in the length of my hair. I was afraid to color my hair because I felt like I would lose value. Letting go of that ideology and realizing that I am more than just hair has been the most freeing and it also helped me to fall in love with the uniqueness of who I am in a whole new way.
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
Yes! Smoothing my hair has made a huge difference. I make sure to wash my hair in sections and smooth every product into my hair beginning with my wash routine. I utilize smoothing techniques to gently remove shed hair and also to assist the water in softening my hair. It has drastically impacted the amount of hair I lose on wash day and has also really helped my hair to be prepared for styling. I find handling my hair in sections to be the most effective for making sure it’s fully de-tangled and that every strand is moisturized.
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
There is so much beauty in your unique texture. Though the hair typing system is available to help direct us as naturals to products that can benefit our hair growth, it is not the only factor to consider for healthy hair growth. Focus on learning your hair’s porosity level and density so that you can find products, routines, and healthy hair practices that promote optimum health for your hair. Healthy hair is good hair and as you begin to embrace your texture and accept it for it as it is, you can then nurture it according to its unique needs and achieve healthy hair that you love and rock confidently. Your hair is your canvas and no matter the texture there is so much versatility in natural hair.
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Image: @indiabatson
What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
Growing up, I straightened my hair daily because all the girls who looked like me had straight hair and what little girl doesn’t simply want to fit in?
What made you decide to embrace your naturally wavy hair?
I grew tired of straightening my hair. I had damaged it enough and was over it. I began doing research on the curly girl method and decided to drop sulfates and put my straightener down for good!
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
I will never forget one day in middle school, I didn’t have time to straighten my hair and just rolled out of bed in a panic. My middle school teacher told me, “I like your hair better when you don’t straighten it.” It changed my perspective completely forever.
How do you protect your curls at night?
Pineapple
Who is your curl crush?
Spisha and Bianca Renee. I’m lucky enough to call them friends and talk on the phone with them way too much.
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
Scrunchie
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
I’m obsessed with Not Your Mother’s Curl Talk line, honestly. It’s Curly Girl Method approved and it’s affordable… GAME CHANGER. I love DevaCurl’s Melt into Moisture Mask, SheaMoisture’s Manuka Honey and Yogurt Hydrate + Repair Protein Power Treatment is PERFECTION for after I highlight my hair to get my bounce back. Recently, I’m loving Prose shampoo and Amika’s curl corps gel, especially since they’re both sulfate & silicone free.
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
Having people tell me I don’t belong in the curly world, but I also don’t belong in the straight hair world, and this has left me feeling out of place as a wavy-hair girl. I hope one day the curly hair community will be more wavy-haired and welcoming of wavy haired men and women. Representation is something I’ve learned this past year is extremely important. In the curly world predominantly 3b/3c curls are shown the most, because they are the “most desired”. I’m ready to see an ad with 2a, 3b, and 4c women next to each other looking fabulous!
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
I am the most chill “hair influencer” out there!! I put my product in and run out the door. I embrace the frizz and work with what I’ve got.
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
If you stop straightening your hair you can get back an hour of your day to eat pizza, watch Netflix or even watch my YouTube videos… if that isn’t encouraging I don’t know what is!?! No, but in all seriousness, stop comparing your hair to others and rock what the good Lord gave you. It will take time, but the journey is the best part.
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What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
It was never easy growing up with culy hair, especially without knowing how to properly take care of it. It was always a mess. This became the reason for straightening my hair for years until the actual light of knowledge was spread upon by the curly community.
What made you decide to embrace your naturally curly hair?
The inspiration that the curly community provided was extraordinary and led to the decision to go natural and embrace my curls.
How have your family, friends, and co-workers reacted? What was your response to them?
It came as a surprise to everyone. And there was no better response than to educate them with the truth.
How did you transition to wearing your natural texture?
Went for the big chop and started a routine that slowly led to the Curly Girl Method.
What is your current hair regimen?
- Deep condition weekly.
- Hot oil treatment every week.
- Cleanse the hair with CG friendly shampoo, use CG friendly conditioner and stylers (DIY as well”>
- Wash my hair twice a week.
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a big impact on the way your hair looks?
Raking the products in small sections.
Any advice you’d like to give other women who may be in the transition phase or need some encouragement in their hair journey?
Get a trim — you can get rid of some damaged part of your hair if you are not ready to cut it off. But make sure to trim the damage regularly as you see natural growth (once every three months.”>
Avoid heat styling. Now, this is very important after all the heat and chemical treatment your hair has undergone in the past, at least for a pretty long period of time.
Use natural ingredients – There is no better product than the mother nature. Try to use natural ingredients in your initial stages and minimize the use of expensive market-based products. You could try the following for each of your treatment and styling techniques.
Deep condition – Moisture is what your hair needs due to all the dryness and damage. Make sure to deep condition your hair at least once a week if not more. Use natural ingredients as I have mentioned above such as honey, coconut milk, avocado, oils, shea butter, etc., in your deep conditioner to get extra that moisture.
Use natural ingredients – There is no better product than the mother nature. Try to use natural ingredients in your initial stages and minimize the use of expensive market-based products. You could try the following for each of your treatment and styling techniques.
- Apple cider vinegar – To clarify
- Coconut oil, Avocado oil, Argan oil, Honey, Coconut milk, Shea butter, aloe vera juice – Deep treatment mask
- Rice water, boiled tapioca water – Protein balance
- Homemade Flaxseed gel – You could use this amazing gel to style your hair post hair wash. Click here for the recipe.
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Image:@mg_03
What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
Growing up, I always had super thick hair even with a relaxer, and my hair was long so I always would get questions about if it was real or not. I loved my long hair and all the different styles I was able to do. I started getting away from regularly relaxing my hair and started trying to “stretch” my relaxer. I like, everyone else, discovered YouTube channels that focused on healthy “relaxed hair journeys”, and I started taking my hair care more seriously.
What made you decide to embrace your naturally curly hair?
Stretching my relaxers seemed silly and I felt like if I could go six months without a touch-up, why not just go without relaxers altogether? I tried transitioning, but that just got to be too much work so I figured if I was going to do this I should just go for it and I big chopped in 2012.
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
Big chopping was probably my most empowering moment because I really loved my curls and didn’t feel like I was less than even though I had way less length. I had always gotten compliments for having long straight hair so not having that as a crutch really put my self-confidence to the test, and to my surprise I loved how I looked and felt more confident than ever.
How do you protect your curls at night?
I sleep on a satin pillowcase or use a satin scarf. Every now and then I forget and do neither.
Who is your curl crush?
My original and forever curl crush is Jessica Lewis of Mahogany Curls. Her blog and YouTube channel were what inspired me when I first went natural and I still love her curls!
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
Deep conditioner!!!!! I’m cheap, but I’ll drop good coins for a good conditioner. In my opinion, it makes the most difference in the health of my hair. If I’m not deep conditioning on the regular with heat, I can immediately tell a difference.
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
I cleanse with a really good shampoo and matching rinse out conditioner.
Deep condition with heat for at least 20 mins.
Then I style, with either a gel or cream.
I love Devacurl’s Heaven in Hair Intense Moisture Treatment and Camille Rose Aloe Whipped Butter Gel or Curl Milk.
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
Struggling with a hair setback. I am anemic and not taking an iron supplement really took a toll on my hair. Plus, the heat damage I got from a salon visit and I was just frustrated. I thankfully figured out what works for me and have since found a good stylist to help me maintain my hair health.
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
Deep conditioning is huge! It makes such a difference and properly using protein treatments because sometimes we can forget we need both.
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
It isn’t always easy. Even now I have my days when I’m not looking my best, but all in all, I love my hair; it’s a part of me. I’m also aware of what I take in as far as media is concerned. I make sure I look at posts and follow brands that feature people who look like me. That messaging is powerful and can take a toll on you if you’re not careful.
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Image:@curlychickvic
What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
I grew up in Spain and was one of a few black kids in my school so my hair was always something that made me stand out from all my friends. I chemically straightened my hair to soften my curl texture for most of my teen years. I just wanted to blend in and had no idea how to care for my natural texture.
What made you decide to embrace your naturally curly hair?
I just got so tired of how unhealthy my hair looked and felt. A few of the more long-standing brands like Cantu and Sheamoisture were starting to pop up and I started slowly transitioning by using better products and lots of twist outs to grow my hair out.
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
Starting my blog has been an amazing journey for me. It allowed me to really connect with the curly community in London and across the world, giving and receiving so much useful information! My hair has really come into its full potential through the commitment I’ve made to it through having to create content.
How do you protect your curls at night?
I sleep in a silk scarf — it’s done the trick or me for years and I’ve mastered the art of tying it so it doesn’t slip off at night!
Who is your curl crush?
I’d probably say Whitney White aka Naptural85 as she has an incredible head of hair and volumes of knowledge to back it!
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
Deep conditioner — it literally saves my hair in the winter months!
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
I like to keep it simple. I cleanse, deep condition, style, moisturize, and define my wash and go once a week and try to make it last the entire week.
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
I’d grown a thick full head of hair from years of twisting and made the mistake of going to a bad hairstylist for highlights. My hair was really impacted by the bad color job and I’m currently growing it all out so it feels like I’m on a journey again!
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
Deep conditioning with indirect heat works wonders for my low porosity curls. Learning to understand ingredients and figuring out which ones work well with my hair and which don’t has really made a huge difference (proteins can be touch and go for me”>. Also, finding a hair routine that works and sticking to it has really taken my hair to its full potential.
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
Embracing your natural hair can feel like such a burden with so much information, so many products, so many different styling methods out there. Trial and error is the way forward; have a little patience and stay committed to letting your hair truly shine and I promise you won’t regret it.
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Image:@curlissima
What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
Both of my parents have very thick, coarse, curly hair so at least I wasn’t the only curly in my family! But my curls are very different than theirs so they could only offer me so much help. On top of not knowing how best to care for my curls, I grew up in a predominately white community and never felt like I fit in. I couldn’t change my coloring or my bone structure. But I could control my hair. So that’s what I did. By 14 years old I had become a slave to the flat iron and wouldn’t be caught dead outside without straightened hair. Then I met my first serious boyfriend when I was 16 and he preferred my hair straight, too, which just reinforced my insecurities about my natural texture. I maintained my flat iron addiction for 10 years.
What made you decide to embrace your naturally curly hair?
It really all came down to self-love and living authentically. I wanted to love my genuine, authentic self more. Deep down I knew that letting myself be influenced by the pressure to conform to society’s beauty standards was unhealthy. When I broke it down and asked myself the tough questions, I realized that in order to love myself fully, I needed to let go of Western European standards of beauty and embrace my own ethnic background, which was to thank for my crown of curls. I had to stop denying who I am. And who I am is a beautifully mixed-race, curly-haired mutt!
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
Starting my curly hair blog on Instagram has been a very empowering part of this journey. It’s helped me engage with the wonderfully supportive curly community there. It’s a safe space where I can share my “wins” and my “fails” with others who understand the struggle and don’t just think I’m being silly or vain! Everyone knows it’s about SO much more than hair. It’s helped me in so many ways to not lose hope and stay motivated on this journey. And as I’ve progressed, I’ve realized that little old me could actually be a source of inspiration to other curlies, which was an amazing feeling! Embracing my curly hair on a social media platform has helped me become comfortable being unapologetically me in all aspects of my life.
How do you protect your curls at night?
To protect my curls, I sleep in a satin bonnet on a satin pillowcase. This has been the silver bullet to extending my time between wash days!
Who is your curl crush?
I have SO many curl crushes! Truly too many to list here. So if I had to pick just one… Sanne (@curlsandblondies“> has absolutely stunning curls and gives really helpful hair tips. But I also really connect with and am inspired by how she encourages self-love.
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
I don’t think I could live without my hairdryer and diffuser. My hair takes a lifetime to air dry and I can’t get a fraction of the volume or tightness in my curls without diffusing!
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
I deep condition, wash, and style twice a week. I prefer to deep condition as a pre-poo so that my low-porosity, fine hair doesn’t get weighed down. My favorite deep conditioner right now is the Shea Moisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen & Restore Treatment Masque. It provides an amazing balance of protein and moisture that my hair just loves. Then I wash and condition. Recently, I’ve been loving the Not Your Mother’s Naturals Curl Defining shampoo and conditioner. Then I style with CURLS Crème Brûlée Whipped Curl Cream and Pantene Curl Defining Mousse. This mousse gives amazing shine, volume, and definition with a lightweight, soft hold that still maintains for several days with minimal refreshing. To finish, I diffuse dry. Recently, I’ve become a huge fan of the Curly Co. Collapsible Diffuser, but I also really like the Xtava Black Orchid.
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
The most challenging part has been being patient through the transition when it feels like every day is a bad hair day. It’s easy to get frustrated and throw in the towel. It’s hard enough just going to work or school with your transitioning hair, but when a special event or trip rolls around it’s like your commitment is being tested all over again for the first time! You think, “This trip/event would be so much easier if I straightened my hair.” Or, “I don’t want to be in pictures with my hair looking like this. Maybe I should just straighten it.” So to overcome that urge, you really have to recommit to your long-term hair health goals. You have to stop being your own worst critic and you have to not let what anyone what else thinks to bother you either. And that’s so much easier said than done!
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
Deep conditioning twice a week has really made a difference in my hair health. Also, the “squish to condish” technique and “pulsing” a.k.a. “scrunch + pump” technique when styling have both been game changers for me. And, of course, good sleep protection truly is vital to preserving your curls for multiple days!
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
“When you feel like quitting, remember why you started.” You can see this through. You can reach your healthy hair goals. It might be tough now, but it WILL be worth it. You didn’t damage your hair overnight, right? So you can’t expect it to recover quickly either. Give yourself time. Be patient. You deserve to love yourself exactly as you were made. So stay strong and don’t give in to the pressure to conform to society’s beauty standards, or your friends’, or your boyfriends’. If you want to embrace your naturally beautiful self then keep going!
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What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
Growing up with textured hair in the ’70s and ’80s was a challenge. I had weekly hair appointments at my grandmother’s house so she could wash, comb it out, “straighten” it, as well as braid my hair in two pigtails for my mother for the coming week. I stayed away from swimming pools or beaches for fear my real texture would come peaking through. I loathed the humidity and literally learned to detect it immediately by sticking my head out the door. If my hair frizzed then predictably the forecast would read humidity. My hair never failed me!
What made you decide to embrace your naturally curly hair?
After years of relaxers, my hair simply could not take the harsh chemicals any longer. At the age of 40, my hair began to thin and break off. It was at that point my stylist strongly advised me to avoid chemically straightening my hair. I stopped immediately for fear of losing my hair and began what is now known as the transitioning process. I simply dealt with the two textures until my hair was completely grown out of the relaxer. This process took me approximately eight months.
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
I would have to say the second phase of my natural hair journey. After first returning to natural and proudly wearing my naturally curly texture, my hair became severely damaged due to medication I had to take. At that point, I had to make the bravest decision (in my opinion”> of my life and “big chop” my hair. I went from having shoulder-length curly hair to a little over an inch of hair on my head. I really had to dig deep and pull all my mental resources together to wear this hairstyle proudly. It was a very difficult time for me.
How do you protect your curls at night?
At night I secure my mid-length hair in two “pineapples”. I place one on top of my head and the other at the nape of my neck. I also sleep on a silk pillowcase.
Who is your curl crush?
My curl crush, of course, is my daughter, the other half of our M.A.D.CURLS duo and @itstayloranne on Instagram.
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
I would say an essential for me is any conditioner that has slip. It is a necessity to avoid unnecessarily pulling and tugging my hair, causing split ends, and worse yet, irreparable damage.
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
My current hair regimen is simply washing or cowashing my hair as often as my schedule demands. I make hair tutorials for my YouTube channel so my hair regimen changes weekly if not daily. The one consistent thing I do and will not waver from is to give myself PLENTY of time to detangle my hair. I refuse to recklessly yank and pull tangles out of my hair in an attempt to speed up the process, as I once did. I have learned valuable lessons that taking your time….leaving yourself enough time to do the job is the key to beautiful, healthy hair.
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
The most challenging moments have been those times when you see division creep into a community that started out as “all inclusive”. This division at times based on hair typing is one of the saddest moments to witness. I came from a generation of divisiveness. I believed that the natural hair movement had moved past that. But I have found sadly, there’s still work to be done.
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
When I mastered how to “refresh” my hair that was a revolutionary moment for my hair journey. The daily washing came to a screeching halt! I embraced the frizz, the big hair, and the bigger hair! My hair was healthier and looked it! It was the best technique and I couldn’t wait to share on our M.A.D.CURLS channel. What I learned from my personal “trial and error” and passed on was to wait 3-5 minutes after spraying your refresher spray in your hair to let it “set” before scrunching out your curls. It’s brilliant!
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
Do not compare! Never compare your hair texture with anyone else’s hair texture even if it is a close family member. “Comparison is the thief of joy” and it truly is. If you are constantly wishing your hair looked like someone else’s or curled like someone else’s you won’t even enjoy your own hair which is unique to you. You were beautifully and wonderfully made. Appreciate who you are and what you bring to this natural hair movement. Each natural “head of hair” is different, as well as each journey.
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If you have textured tresses, your battle with frizz is a daily challenge, and one that is rarely victorious. Wavy, curly, and coily girls alike dream for the day of perfectly frizz-free hair. Here’s your chance to get rid of frizz in just seven days! Put it to the test; give your curls the seven-day challenge.
Day 1: Out with the old!
Dump all of your alcohol-laden stylers, sulfate-based shampoos, and silicone-filled serums.
Drying alcohols found in a host of styling product can cause the cuticle to swell up, and the hair to frizz. Sulfate-based shampoos rob your tresses of its much-needed natural oils, another culprit of frizz. Ditch these duds and shop for products that are formulated with natural ingredients, and free of drying alcohol, sulfates, silicones, mineral oil and other articifical fillers.
Tip For Curly Textures
Stop by your local health food store and pick up a bottle of pure aloe vera gel. This is a great replacement for drying gels, and you can use it to define and hold your curls, and control frizz.
Day 2: Whip that hair!
Book an appointment to get a much-needed hair trim. Make sure the stylist you select is experienced with caring for textured hair. Damaged, sparse, straggly ends are not only unattractive, but they also add to the frizz factor.
Tip For Coily Textures
To ensure an accurate cut (especially when you are visiting a stylist for the first time”> shampoo, condition, and seal the hair with a natural oil two days before, and let your hair completely dry. On the day of your cut, gently blow dry your hair with a vented brush on low heat just enough to stretch your coils.
Day 3: Heat things up!
Frizz happens when dry, porous hair sucks up excess moisture in the air. Give yourself a deep treatment with heat to help seal in moisture, and prep your hair for frizz-free locks. To maximize the conditioning affect, warm up a helping of pure jojoba, olive or pomegranate seed oil, and mix with your conditioner. Be sure to leave it on for at least five minutes.
Tip For Wavy Textures
To avoid limp, lifeless hair, apply the conditioner at least 2″ from the roots.
Day 4: Use a DIY treatment
This easy, homemade recipe is my favorite deep conditioning treatments.
Milk and Honey Hair Smoothie
1 can of pure coconut milk (rich moisturizer – hydrates, conditions and de-frizzes hair”>
1 ripe avocado (natural source of protein – chemical processes rob the hair of protein”>
2 tablespoons of pure honey (conditions and adds sheen”>
2 tablespoons of olive oil (fatty oil that moisturizes and conditions dry hair”>
Directions:Add ingredients to blender. Mix at high speed until your concoction reaches a smoothie consistency. Generously apply evenly to hair, from root to ends, concentrating on ends since they are the most prone to damage. Rinse.
Day 5: Seal in moisture and protect
Wavy, curly and coily textures alike should seal in moisture, with natural oils, regularly. The act of “sealing” your hair locks in moisture and prevents breakage and dryness. After you cleanse and condition your hair, rinse and re-apply another thin layer of conditioner. Detangle and blot dry with your microfiber towel. Before styling, apply a layer of your natural oil of choice.
Tip For Wavy Textures
Opt for a light oil that won’t weigh down your hair, or loosen the waves. Pure jojoba oil most resembles the oil produced in our scalp.
Tip For Curly Textures
Opt for a medium-bodied oil with additional benefits. I prefer pure Tahitian Monoi de Tahiti and pomegranate seed oil.
Tip For Coily Textures
Opt for rich, dense butters that melt down into a creamy oil. These butters will add the conditioning, weight and protection dry, coily hair needs. I suggest pure mango and shea butter.
Day 6: Try new tools of the trade
A curly girl’s ultimate goal is to banish frizz. However, some of our tools of the trade can actually create frizz and breakage. It’s time to make a change!
That old trusty terry cloth towel you use to dry your curls actually creates frizz and breakage. Those minuscule loops that make up the bulk of the towel captures and snags hair. Opt for a soft t-shirt, or my personal favorite, a microfiber towel.
I highly recommend air drying hair. However, when this is not an option, use an ionic blow dryer with a diffuser attachment. While the jury is out on the scientific proof that ionic blow dryers prevent/reduce damage, the general consensus is that they do reduce frizz.
Invest in your daily staples, the tools that touch your hair the most often.
Detangling comb: If you aren’t the disciplined curly that only uses her fingers to detangle (don’t feel bad, I never quite got the hang of this either”>, invest in an wide-toothed comb made out of pliable material. It’s important that your detangling comb gives as it glides through your hair to avoid unnecessary tugging and breakage.
Smoothing brush: If you are a fan of rocking protective styles, you will definitely need a good quality natural boar bristle brush to smooth your hair, edges and roots. Cheap bristles can damage the hair shaft and cause split ends.
Day 7: Style like a curly pro!
The key to a great curl day is a great hair care regime. Incorporate the following steps into your regime for optimal results.
Cleanse
Condition
Seal in moisture
Style
This article was written by Mahisha Dellinger, founder of CURLS. This article was originally published in October 2013 and has been updated.What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
Growing up with textured hair my hair was a project haha. It always had to be “done” and typically that meant the straightening comb or two braids. I remember envying the girls who had straight hair and could roll out of bed, brush their hair and be on their way. I always wanted straight hair. I used to sit on YouTube and watch girls straighten their hair; one year all I wanted for Christmas was a Chi straightener hoping it would make my hair look like theirs. I hated pools and anything that required me to get my hair wet because it would poof up. I was so excited in high school when I could get my first relaxer, because my hair never got as straight as the girls with naturally straight hair. Growing up I didn’t like my hair at all and always wanted something I couldn’t have.
What made you decide to embrace your naturally curly hair?
I actually had no choice but to embrace my natural hair. Back in 2010 when I returned natural, I had been relaxing and dying my hair and it all fell out! My hair went from down my back to around my ears. So I had to stop relaxing and dying it. I didn’t know I was “returning natural” I just knew I had to stop doing what I was doing to my hair. As the months and years went on, my hair began to transform and I had no desire to relax it. I loved my curls as did so many others and I felt confident! I had no idea what my hair could really do or what it could really look like because I had spent so many years trying to change it. I was amazed.
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
The most empowering moment for me was when I realized that I actually was beautiful with curly hair. After growing up wanting straight hair so bad, to look in the mirror and love what was coming out of my head and not wanting to change it was an amazing feeling! I felt like I was beautiful and unique and I stand out more with my curly hair than I ever would have with straight hair. I find it so crazy how women with straight hair now love and want my hair when it used to be the other way around. What’s also empowering is being an influencer and being able to help others on their journey to self-love and loving their natural hair! It’s a beautiful thing! :”> I love being able to do it with my Mom as well! You’re never too old to start!
How do you protect your curls at night?
I protect my curls at night by doing the “pineapple” method. I bring all my hair to the top of my head into a large ponytail and I sleep on a silk pillowcase.
Who is your curl crush?
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
My curl essential I cannot live without is my Aussie Moist 3 Minute Miracle. It makes detangling a breeze and my hair super soft. I always say if I could only use one hair product for the rest of my life, it would be that one.
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
The most challenging moment of my hair journey came in fall 2017 when my dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer. I thought I was taking it well, but I wasn’t and was internalizing a lot. Well, it manifested itself in my hair and the distress I was feeling made my hair fall out. Everything I had grown and nurtured since 2010, was coming out in handfuls and shedding. I ended up having to get a haircut and I was really upset about it because I couldn’t stop it. No matter how calm I tried to be, I had no control over my emotions and this made my hair come out. Now in fall 2018 I am back on track and my hair is pretty much looking like it did before it fell out, so I am happy I overcame that.
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
Yes; when I began to section my hair during detangling and styling, it completely changed the game for me. I went natural in 2010 and I would say up until 2017 I never sectioned my hair; I just detangled as a whole and slapped products in during styling. Sectioning during detangling can cause less breakage and damage to the hair. When I began sectioning my hair to apply products I found that my wash and go’s were much better.
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
To love yourself. You are beautifully and wonderfully made and God created you as you are. Don’t compare your hair or yourself to anybody! You are unique!
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What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
It was hard as I never had any role models — such as friends or family — around me with my type of texture. All my cousins had thicker hair type 4 hair and I was the only one with finer, loose curls! I didn’t really know what to do with my hair — I usually had it up in a ponytail or just wild and free.
What made you decide to embrace your naturally curly hair?
I was tired of curling my curly hair with heat and was inspired by all these beautiful curlies on the internet rocking their natural curls and decided I needed to put down the heat and LOVE my curls!!!
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
When I had my first curly haircut! Just WOW! I had a lot of stuff going on in my life and just one day decided I’m just going to get a cut! I loved my length and kept holding onto it even though it was not healthy. Having that cut made me feel free, strong, and ready for whatever challenge is thrown at me next! “A women who cuts her hair is about to change her life.”
How do you protect your curls at night?
At night I either use an oversized bonnet or a Buff, but recently I have turned to a silk scarf, which is working amazingly well!
Who is your curl crush?
It has to be @charmsie; she inspired me to embrace my natural curls! She is also a fine-haired curly like me and her YouTube videos literally saved my curls and I absolutely love her!
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
Oh, that’s hard; I have so many! It has to be my hair picker! You know I need that volume in my life!!
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
I wash my hair 2-3 times a week and deep condition one or two times a week! Being a full-time athlete, it is hard to manage my curls. With training, I get sweaty all the time. I have so many favorite products, but my go-tos are … Jim + Henry EIGHT, Witch I Love Your Magic Mist, Righteous Roots, DIY Flaxseed Gel, and Only Curls. I also love the Bounce Curl Gel and Cantu Activation Cream combo! Another amazing go-to combo is TGIN Green Tea Super Moist Leave-in Conditioner paired with Design Essentials Almond & Avocado Mousse – my results are always popping!
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
The most challenging moment of my journey is when I first started. I was using products that were too heavy for my hair and I didn’t understand why they didn’t work for me. Being on my natural hair journey has definitely taught me a lot! I feel like I’ve learned so much and have enjoyed every single minute of it — even the downs!!
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
Finger coiling has helped me so much! This has trained my curls to get them more defined. I recently went back to using the Denman brush and have fallen back in love with it! I used it last year and wasn’t a fan, but now that my curls have gotten healthier, it works amazing.
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
When I first started my healthy hair journey, I did not like my fine curls. I used to see pictures of all these curlies with big, beautiful, curly, thick hair and I use to be like wow, why can’t I have hair like that! Now I have accepted that I have beautiful, fine, defined curls that I can do so much with! I feel extremely blessed that I have been given these lovely curls. My advice would be to be patient and find other role models with your texture and see all the different styles you can do with your hair.
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Image: @ahfro_baang
What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
Growing up with textured hair was really fun for me. I started styling my hair at 10 years old, and I’ve always felt it was a satisfying form of self-expression. My mother allowed me to do my own styles, and that sort of creative freedom with hair is exciting when you’re young.
What made you decide to embrace your naturally curly hair?
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
The most empowering moments of my natural hair journey have come through watching the natural hair community grow — seeing so many girls and women embrace an aspect of themselves and drawing inspiration from that. It’s a beautiful thing.
How do you protect your curls at night?
I generally tie my hair up into a high bun and sleep in my Mane Choice bonnet.
Who is your curl crush?
Who isn’t my curl crush?! I love all of them. Every single one for different reasons (e.g.; styling techniques, natural remedies, tips, product knowledge etc.”>
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
I’d have to say a pick. Picks are MAGICAL creatures.
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
Being patient. With styling, growth, and change I have to remind myself what the journey is about and that each moment is one to enjoy.
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
Maintaining a healthy hair routine is the key to optimal hair health. Regularly deep conditioning hair, learning how to retain moisture, getting regular trims, seeking professional advice for color and chemical changes to the hair, etc. Staying on top of these habits, you thereby set your hair health up for success.
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
My advice is “Do what you want.” I don’t interfere. I think everyone’s timing is different and I don’t judge women for whatever it is that they do with their hair. I think it’s a woman’s choice to do whatever it is that she wants to do with her hair. It’s her freedom.
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What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
Clueless and always unstyled! Those are the best words to describe how I grew with curly hair. Later on, being the daughter of a hairdresser, my hair was always relaxed with keratin and straightened!
What made you decide to embrace your naturally curly hair?
My hair was tired! Just fried, and so short because I kept trimming damaged ends. One picture that I took on a humid day made me realize how ugly my hair was already. Also, having a curly daughter made me realize I don’t want the same for her. So I decided to search about curly hair and learned how to treat it. My husband supported me a lot since day one of transitioning!
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
I started the Curly Girl Method! Life changing! I was completely clueless about curly hair and “The Curly Girl Handbook” gave me directions. I began in August 2017 and in September received a haircut. It was a regular cut — just taking away a few inches. Still, my hair was shoulder length. My hair began the transformation and in July 2018 my mother gave me an amazing cut with layers, which has helped with volume, shape, and definition.
How do you protect your curls at night?
Pineappling — it has been a life-changing method! I’m able to last all week without doing a thing to my hair! I wrap my hair with a satin scarf.
Who is your curl crush?
My future me! I’m looking forward to being my own crush, but definitely, my curls inspiration is Felicia Jones @hif3licia on Instagram.
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
Do I really need to choose one? I can’t live without conditioner, my satin scarf, or without a detangling brush. I’m loving the Denman brush.
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
Currently, I co-wash and detangle my hair with any Not Your Mother’s Naturals Conditioner. I’m having a special love with the new black one (charcoal and bamboo line”>. After that I deep condition with any Shea Moisture or The Mane Choice deep hair masks. To style, I use the rake and praying hands method and use the SheaMoisture Jamaican Black Castor Leave-in, SheaMoisture Coconut Curl Enhancing Smoothie and Herbal Essences Gel. I must say that recently I styled with The Mane Choice Tropical Moringa Leave-in and Tropical Moringa Sealing Cream and I was completely obsessed with my results. I diffuse with the Dyson Supersonic and then scrunch out the cast with a few drops of Camille Rose Growth Serum.
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
When my hair has different textures! Trying to find the right products and use the correct amount of them! Also, as I mentioned before, since I’m from a family of stylists, it was a challenge to hear the comments of the people who were used to seeing me with straight hair.
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
Many! Here are a few, starting with not brushing or detangling curly hair dry. Others: Applying products in soaking wet hair by sections. Deep conditioning every week. Pineapple at night. Using the praying hands method and scrunching out the crunch.
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
To be free. Be yourself. Embrace your natural hair and skin! Pamper yourself. Feel good with yourself. Put yourself first and then the world. Have patience and deep condition your hair.
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What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
Growing up, I always remember wash days as being awful. I remember lots of screaming and tears. My hair was thick and I remembered wishing it was smooth like my classmates who all had relaxers. I never knew how to do my hair myself and after a while, my mom gave up and had my hair relaxed.
What made you decide to embrace your naturally coily hair?
One weekend my sister, @kimcurly23, came home from college for the weekend and she showed me videos with @mahoganycurls, @naptural85, and other natural hair youtubers. I was blown away because having natural hair was literally something I had never even considered. I loved how they were doing their hair themselves and using natural products to make diy products. All this was amazing and all new to me. I transitioned for about 4-6 months I think, then after a disaster with some ground almonds, I tried making almond milk and I decided to big chop.
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
The day I did my big chop was and still is the most amazing day in my natural hair journey! I felt so scared at first, but a man on the street told me I looked like “a natural empress” and for some reason, it cheered me up! I felt like a whole different human. I felt so liberated like this was the first time I was being my true self!
How do you protect your curls at night?
I never go to bed without a satin bonnet.
Who is your curl crush?
My sister- @kimcurly23
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
Camille Rose Naturals Almond Jai Twisting Butter and Mielle Organics Mongongo Oil Exfoliating Shampoo
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
I clarify once a month with an acv and water mix and I shampoo once per week. I believe that a clean scalp is one of the most important steps in growing healthy hair. Mielle Organics Mongongo Shampoo and the Do it “FRO” The Culture Mane Choice Shampoo are current faves. I deep condition bi-weekly based on the needs of my hair. So if it feels mushy then I sub my moisture deep conditioner for a protein treatment. I love the new Camille Rose Oud Rich Infusion Deep Conditioner for moisture and for protein I add a bit of my diy Ayurvedic herb mix to any deep conditioner. My favorite leave-in is the Natty Naturals Leave-in. It has tons of slip and is readily absorbed. For stylers, I tend to reach for my Camille Rose Naturals Almond Jai Twisting Butter, Oyin Boing or the Mielle Organics Pomegranate and Honey Curl Twisting Soufflé.
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
I permanently colored my hair and that has really set back my journey. I had a lot of fun being a redhead, but now the color is almost completely gone and I don’t think I’d ever color my hair again because it really loosened my curl pattern.
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
Deep conditioning with a plastic cap on plus my thermal hot head cap has really made a great impact on my hair! I find that moisturizing my hair and scalp and adding oil on top makes my hair soft and lessens friction which in turn reduced breakage.
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
Find what works for your hair type and I promise you’ll love your texture. I suggest following women with a similar hair type on social media. They can share tips on how to best care their hair.
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What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
Growing up with curly hair was interesting. I didn’t know I had curly hair for years because my mom would brush my hair and put it in a ponytail before I got on the school bus every morning, and after school, it would still be up for sports. I cried because it was so tangled and it hurt when my mom brushed it. I have very thick hair and it would take about 20 minutes every day just to untangle it and by that point, it was just a big poof. I didn’t know I had curly hair until around 13 years old when I did the big chop with the cutest pixie cut and it just grew out completely curly and I was now responsible for styling it.
What made you decide to embrace your naturally wavy hair?
In my senior year of high school, I was watching all of these television shows like Will and Grace and Sex and the City with these gorgeous leading ladies with curly hair. Sarah Jessica Parker and Debra Messing were my inspiration. Lorde just came to the music scene and everyone in my school thought her hair was so cool and I would say “I have that too”, but a the time I didn’t from the damage of straightening and I wanted to be “cool” too. So this desire to be cool really changed my life because now I’m more of myself and me then I’ve ever been.
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
I did the big chop in 2016 and realized that I didn’t need hair to feel beautiful. I didn’t need long, straight hair to feel myself and sexy. As my hair grew out, I learned what it needed and it sort of felt like I was learning what I needed for myself. Once I realized all of this information on curly hair, people would come up and ask me “what do you do?” So, I started my curly “insta-blog” @curly.bailey and I’ve helped thousands of people embrace and learn to love their hair all while still being my complete self on social media which can be hard. The biggest thing I get from my followers is “thank you for being you and thank you for helping me love and embrace my hair”
How do you protect your curls at night?
I sleep with my hair just sort of out and about. I’ve tried the satin and silk pillowcases, bonnets, and scarves, but it’s always bothered me when I sleep. So I just wake up and touch up curls or areas that need it. If you have a good wash day and product line up, your days to follow will hold up!
Who is your curl crush?
Definitely Debra Messing in the first season of Will and Grace! I loved Sarah Jessica too! It was the 90s and they were just thriving with those curls! Also, I help “curly mentor” a girl named Ava Deharo. She’s 14 and I wish I was smart enough to start my curly journey when I was her age! She is so great and my curly hero for embracing her natural hair at such a young age! When you’re young all you want to do is fit in sometimes, and she’s embracing who she is and that’s amazing!
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
Now, I don’t need a lot of product since my hair has been so healthy, but they don’t call me a product junkie for nothing. My favorite combo is a cream, gel, and mousse in that order. Rizos Curl Defining Cream is my ride or die cream! For gel, I love Jessicurl’s Spiralicious Gel, or Innersense I Create Hold Gel. For mousse, I love Innersense Volume Foam or Dippity-Do Girls with Curls Mousse. A lot of people are shocked that I do mousse last, but try it!! You won’t regret it! It’s such a lightweight product, I couldn’t imagine putting it before gel which is such a heavy holding product.
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
The comments I get from people. I’ve heard everything under the sun, from “you look like you got electrocuted“ and “did you stick your finger in a light socket” to “your hair looks like a Christmas tree”. It’s hard to feel sexy and confident when people don’t get curls or natural frizz that comes along with it. I remember it’s my natural hair and apart of me so I embrace myself fully.
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
Deep conditioning once a week has changed my life, it really hydrated my curls back to life and really trial and error. That’s not technically a method, but you’ll find what works best for your own hair if you try. You may find someone with the same exact shape, or color, or length or similar pattern, but their routine may not work for you. That’s why I’ve never asked anyone with a similar pattern to my hair what they do. We share and talk, but I have to figure what works for me. Also, the mousse after the gel was a game changer!
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
I know it’s hard, but what’s harder is trying to fit in, it’s harder to change yourself and your hair to fit a standard that’s not you. What’s easy is when you finally embrace yourself and everything about yourself which includes your natural texture. It’s a beautiful life when you fully embrace yourself. You’ll have a fulfillment inside you, you never thought you needed. Give it a try, and find out. If you don’t like it, you can go right back, but that connection with yourself and your hair is something you owe yourself.
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How would you best describe your hair?
Transitioning
What was it like for you growing up with textured hair?
Growing up with textured hair was difficult. I did not realize how important my curls were up until a few years ago. My mom wasn’t very accepting of my curls either, forcing my hair to go through lots of relaxing and straightening and blowdrying. In school curly hair wasn’t even cool or acceptable. I went to a school in Bayonne, NJ, where most people had nice, straight, soft hair so whenever I pulled out my curls I’d be mocked and ridiculed. It wasn’t until natural hair became a trend that I started feeling fully accepted.
What made you decide to embrace your naturally curly hair?
After seeing a lot of curly hair transitions, I figured why can’t I do it? I started looking at everyone else’s curly stories and even read through the whole NaturallyCurly website to make sure I was doing this right. I knew patience would be key, but I finally felt ready to let go of the straightener and fix all this heat damage.
What has been the most empowering moment of your natural hair journey so far?
I’ve been working in a professional business environment since I was 17 and due to the mocking in school, I was always scared my big hair would not look professional for work. Once I started wearing my damaged, natural hair to work, it was very empowering. It was a “hey this is me, this is what’s happening now” kind of moment and I loved it. It took me a while to feel comfortable in my own hair, but patience and a growing confidence helped me through it. I was able to learn curly hairstyles and what works for me.
How do you protect your curls at night?
At night my favorite way to protect them is by putting my hair up in a pineapple. I also sleep with a silk pillow. I used to sleep with a silk bonnet when my curls were a bit shorter but I always felt like my hair was too long to be in the bonnet and it made my curls look all deformed. The pineapple method is much better for my hair.
Who is your curl crush?
My curl crush definitely has to be Lauren Lewis aka @laurenlewiss. Her curls are absolutely beautiful as is she. She does this one slick-back bun that just suits her face so beautifully. One day I want to be able to pull it off just like her. Her curls are also big and beautiful and I believe in a way mine are similar (if I didn’t have heat damage, of course”>. Even a messy bun looks great on her when she’s just traveling or being lazy and I think it’s because her curls are just so nicely defined. She’s also very free-spirited and travels all over the world modeling. Definitely my biggest curl crush.
What’s your curly girl essential you can’t live without?
My curly girl essential definitely has to be the OGX Coconut Curls conditioner. I take that thing everywhere I go. I have used other conditioners including other OGX lines, but this is the one that just hydrates my hair the best. I also can’t live without SheaMoisture Curling Gel Souffle. Even when I was dying my hair all sorts of light colors, this gel really defined and hydrated my curls. The gel is very oily and so helpful when it comes to hydration, which has always been my biggest problem. These two products saved my life.
What is your current hair regimen? Any favorite products you’d like to share?
My current regimen starts with a clarifying shampoo, OGX Coconut Curls Conditioner , and then a deep conditioner. I always debated whether I really needed to condition twice, but it seems my hair needs the extra help. When I don’t do it this way, I get totally different results. I then style with SheaMoisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen and Restore Leave-in, Dark and Lovely Au Naturale Curl Moisturizing Souffle, and my trusty curling gel souffle. Depending on when wash day is, I normally plop my hair in a t-shirt overnight for best results. When I was first transitioning, I must give credit to Camille Rose’s Curl Maker because that was my No. 1 gel at the time. It helped me manipulate my curls back to what they are supposed to be. After my curls were at a better state I went back to SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curling Gel Souffle.
What has been the most challenging moment of your natural hair journey so far?
The most challenging moment of my journey has been staying patient with my hair. Some mornings it was really rough getting a hairstyle together and taking four or five tries to achieve the perfect bun. There were times I felt hideous because my hair just wasn’t working for me nor was it curling. Its so hard to stay consistent and be patient and let your hair blossom, but the curly journeys I’ve read kept me motivated.
Are there any techniques or methods that have made a huge impact on your hair health?
The technique that has had the biggest impact on my hair is brushing with the Denman brush, and hair plopping overnight. The Denman brush is super effective for curl definition. I’ve tried multiple methods including brushing in the shower and brushing while styling and both work. Hair plopping overnight helped manipulate my curls. It gives a bit of an accordion effect, making my curls much more defined. It also helps capture moisture, which my hair is always in dire need of.
What’s your advice to women who are still struggling with loving their natural texture?
My advice for women still struggling is to appreciate the little gradual changes and trust the process. It was hard for me to acknowledge any change in my hair, but now that I look back, my curls have come a long way and it’s only been a few months. So if you’re stressed because you can’t pull any hair-do’s off with transitioning hair, just work with what you got. Do a nice little bun or some twists, but just DO NOT straighten it.
What’s your hair story? Share your story with us here to be featured in our Texture Tales series.