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My Dark and Lovely Au Naturale Protective Styles Review

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I have tried so many products since I first went natural in 2009, so you can say that I am a product junkie at heart. It’s always hard for me to find products that would keep my hair fresh during my protective style, and most importantly finding products that don’t leave residue in my hair with too much buildup. When Dark and Lovely released their new Au Naturale Length Retention products for protective styles this year, I knew I had to try this line. 

Maintaining healthy hair starts with the scalp and Dark and Lovely has just the products to help keep your scalp healthy. The Length Retention for protective styles line was created to help nourish the scalp while your hair is being protected. This line is also chock-full with jojoba oil and peppermint oil to help refresh and soothe the scalp without no sulfates, no mineral oil, no parabens, and no petrolatum.

Protective Styles Refreshing Scalp Cleanser

I always have major issues with my scalp and this product helped keep my scalp feeling very fresh and clean. This cleanser was created to help keep your protective style and scalp feeling clean and fresh between wash days. The refreshing scalp cleanser brings scalp comfort and care on the journey to length retention. I barely had any dandruff once I removed my protective style and that’s huge for me. I sprayed this product on my scalp, let it sit for a minute or two, and removed the excess using a cotton ball or paper towel.

Protective Styles S.O.S. Nourishing Scalp Elixir

The S.O.S Nourishing Scalp Elixir is a nourishing treatment that really saves lives. The key ingredients in this product are arginine and ceramide, which helps to maintain a healthy-looking hairline and scalp when wearing protective styles. This product prevented my scalp from getting dry.

Protective Styles Nice and Neat Braiding Custard

The Protective Styles Nice and Neat Braiding Custard helps keep your hair moisturized, soft, and conditioned while keeping your style looking new. I am very happy that I applied this to my hair before installing my protective style, because I noticed that my hair remained moisturized throughout the duration of my protective style.

Protective Styles Tame and Strengthen Edge Saver

The Protective Styles Tame and Strengthen Edge Saver definitely helped save my edges while sculpting my protective style. Your edges are the first part of your protective style that will begin to get a little fuzzy over time, but this product helped control my frizz and also helped slick down my fly-aways. This is definitely needed with any protective style and should be kept on hand at all times.

Overall this line really helped me keep my protective style looking fresh and maintained!

We haven’t seen many reviews for this line yet, and we’d love to know what you think.

If you’ve tried it, share your thoughts in the comments below. And if you haven’t yet tried it – would you try a product that’s specifically formulated for protective styles?

*Editor’s note: This article is not sponsored. 

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My Hair Care Routine Post Protective Styles 

3 Reasons I Love Protective Styles (And You Will Too”>

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This Talk with a Stranger Inspired Me on My Natural Hair Journey

When I started Happily Ever Natural I was going through a lot in my life. At that time didn’t really have any hobbies that were of interest to me. In 2009 I began my natural hair journey and in 2012 I decided to document it through blogging. Writing was so cathartic for me. Blogging was an outlet for me to express myself creatively. I will admit that at the time I had no idea what a blog was or if anybody would read mine, but I didn’t let that stop me from sharing my experiences. If I only helped one person, that would have been more than I expected. I began to give advice and share tips and tricks about my different experiences with my natural hair.

When I first started my blog I met a woman in Walmart who was on the fence about going natural. We were both in the aisle looking at hair products and she turned and asked me what products I thought she should get to help her dry hair retain moisture. I gave her my blog information and told her that I shared tips and tutorials about natural hair. I told her to subscribe to my blog so that she would get my latest posts and we went our separate ways.

A year later I randomly ran into that same woman at the same Walmart. How crazy is that? She recognized me and immediately gave me a hug and thanked me. She said that I helped her over the last year with her natural hair. When she began her journey she was discouraged and frustrated with trying to find styles and products that worked for her hair.  She explained that my blog, Happily Ever Natural, not only educated her but also inspired her to be confident throughout her journey.  She expressed gratitude to have met me during her trip to Walmart the year before and I was so overjoyed that my blog helped her. After that meeting I was actually inspired to learn even more and expand on different social media platforms, so that I could reach more women. For me, blogging isn’t about being popular or making money; it’s about helping other women. I felt so fulfilled at that moment.

Over the years I have been able to share my knowledge and experiences with women from around the world. When I receive emails from women seeking advice about their natural hair, I am reminded that I am fulfilling my purpose. The primary goal of Happily Ever Natural is to empower women to be confident, courageous, and unique. It makes me feel really good to know that I am doing just that through my platform.

I never imagined that sharing my own experiences with natural hair would turn into something that is continuing to help others. I plan to continue to educate, inspire, and empower women using my platform.

How have you been inspired through your natural hair journey? What has helped you along the way?

The Trick to Blending Your Extensions like a Boss
Extensions are the ultimate accessory. Clip-ins allow you to change up your look in a matter of minutes without damaging your hair. They offer the ability to enhance and make your hair appear fuller and can also add length. When wearing extensions, you want them to look natural and blend seamlessly with your natural hair and here are a few tips to help you achieve that.

Wash your extensions before wearing them

It is best to wash your extensions before you wear them. Before washing, most extensions usually have a gloss that does not match most hair textures, so washing the extensions is essential to making them blend with your hair. Use a gentle shampoo and condition the extensions and allow them to air-dry. In order to avoid breakage and frizz, remember to be gentle, work in sections if necessary, and always stroke the hair downward.

Get the color that best matches your real hair

Don’t go for the bold red if your hair is brown. The perfect color match is key in making extensions look natural.  If you pick a shade that is too light or too dark, it can make your extensions really stand out. You can also color your extensions if your hair is colored to help them match your hair color.

100% human hair is best

If you want your hair extensions to look the most natural, it’s best to use 100% human hair extensions. It provides more versatility than synthetic hair for every reason. You can also curl, straighten, and color human hair extensions, helping you blend them perfectly. They also last longer than synthetic hair when properly cared for.

Style them

Whenever I wear hair extensions, I twist them just like I would twist my own hair. If your real hair has layers, you may want to cut layers into your extensions to remove the blunt ends and better conceal the extensions. You can also mix the extensions with your real hair by smoothing them with your fingers, comb, or detangling brush and twisting them together.

Less is actually more

You don’t have to use all the extensions that come with your bundle. If you use a few wefts in the back and some in the middle while leaving a bigger portion of your hair out at the top, this will help your extensions appear more natural. I usually do a twist-out with the top of my hair and just pin the back portion.

What helps you blend your natural hair extensions?

Read Next: The Different Methods for Installing Extensions and A Revealing Guide to Buying Hair Extensions

10 of the Best Top Knot Tutorials on All Lengths

The top knot bun, also known as the high bun, is definitely my go-to hairstyle when I don’t have a lot of time to do my hair, which happens quite often. I love wearing a top knot bun, because it is quick and easy to achieve. The top knot is versatile and can be rocked in different ways with various hair textures and lengths. It will always be a sleek, go-to style that you can rock effortlessly. 

For your top knot bun you will need these tools and products to help create this style:

  • Gel or edge control
  • Bristle brush
  • Bobby pins
  • Stretchy headband or ponytail holder
  • Added hair (If necessary”>
  • Satin scarf

Check out these tutorials on the best high buns of YouTube.

Short natural hair

Just because you have short hair doesn’t mean that you can’t rock a cute top knot bun. For more volume, add hair extensions and use a good gel to hold your hair and edges in place.

Did you know that you can achieve a top knot using clip-ins? Work with what you have.

You can also rock a messy bun with short natural hair using a curly wig.

Medium/long natural hair

If your hair is medium length, it is likely long enough for you to create a top knot or high bun without using added hair.

You can also achieve a high bun on semi straightened or stretched medium length hair.

A high bun is achieved on type 4 natural hair that is medium length.

You can also try a top knot, half up half down look.

This sleek top knot bun is done on longer length hair.

This tutorial is a very chic version of the classic top knot bun. It features lots of height and personality.

Try pulling your hair upward and tucking inward, securing the style with bobby pins.

Now that you have had a chance to check out the different top knot/high bun tutorials, will you give this super chic and easy style a try?

Read next: How I care for my hair post protective styles and 15 Products perfect for protective styling

How I Make My Hair Extensions Last Longer

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Quality extensions are a major investment. When you find good extensions that you really love, it is important that you take care of them as you would your own hair. How you care for your extensions is one of the most important steps in preserving them. If you take good care of your extensions, they should last you a very long time. Taking care of your extensions is an ongoing process that involves time and patience. There are six ways I have kept my extensions up for almost a year now and they still look brand new. 

Co-washing is key

Co-washing is the key to maintaining soft and manageable extensions. I usually try to co-wash my extensions weekly to keep them looking shiny and soft. A few co-washes that I like to use are EDEN Bodyworks Coconut Shea Cleansing Co-wash, Mielle Organics Detangling Co-Wash, and Aunt Jackie’s Curls & Coils Flaxseed Recipes Purify Me Moisturizing Co-Wash Cleanse.

Use shampoo sparingly

It is best to use a sulfate-free shampoo when you need to cleanse your extensions. Harsh sulfates can strip the hair of its moisture. This is why co-washing is preferred over washing with shampoo. If the extensions have extensive product buildup, you can use a clarifying shampoo to remove buildup. If you go this route, make sure to follow up with a very moisturizing leave-in conditioner. I recommend Crème of Nature Certified Naturals Mango & Shea Butter Moisturizing Shampoo and Curls Blueberry Bliss Reparative Leave In.

Detangle gently

You want to make sure that you are detangling your extensions properly. The tools that you use on your extensions will affect how long they will last. It is best to use a wide tooth comb or a Denman brush to detangle your extensions. This will help keep the shedding to a minimum. It is also best to comb and detangle your extensions while the hair is damp or wet.

Let your extensions dry naturally

For my clip-in extensions, I let them dry naturally for minimal tangles. I place them on a towel or hang them on my shower and let them dry naturally before placing them in my hair.

Use minimal heat

Yes, your extensions can obtain heat damage just like your real hair can. If you must use heat on your extensions make sure that you are using the lowest setting possible. I tend to shy away from using a lot of heat on my extensions to prevent heat damage.

Store your extensions with care

When storing your extension you should place your extensions in an airtight container or breathable bag that is large enough to fit your extensions comfortably. Make sure that they are clean and completely dry before storing them away. You would not want to come back and find them full of mold and smelly.

How do you care for your extensions?

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How to Keep Your Hands Out of Your Hair

Do you suffer from HIH? HIH is commonly known as hand in hair syndrome. Are you constantly playing in your hair or going to the bathroom every hour to check and see if your hair is still intact? If so, then my friend you have a case of hand in hair syndrome. Maybe you’re nervous or even just bored. You are probably questioning why this absent-minded habit that many of us have matters. Well, HIH can hurt your hair more than it can help it. If you constantly touch and play in your hair, it can lead to breakage – and nobody wants to hear that word. This is definitely not a good habit and can cause problems in the future like single strand knots, split ends, and tangles. The good news is there are ways to help you keep your hands out of your hair.

Get a protective style

This is probably the best thing that you can do to keep your hands out of your hair. Protective styling offers the ability to keep your strands tucked away. You will not be able to mess with your actual hair while in a protective style. Give your hair a break and install a cute protective style. A few good protective styles to try are Marley twists and crochet braids.

Wear low manipulation styles

Low manipulation styles like mini twists, buns, and halo braids are also a really good option to avoid putting your hands in your hair. One simple style we love is this halo braid.

Rock an updo

Updos are another style that can help to keep your hands at bay. There are so many cute updo styles that you can create, and they also can last a few weeks. Check out these super cute updo inspirations.

Wear a head wrap

Head scarves are a stylish means of keeping your hands out of your hair. Learning how to wrap your hair can be challenging, but once you get the hang of it, you might get addicted. Check out these super cute head wrap styles for some fierce inspiration.

Get your mind (and hands”> on something else

Prevent idle hands by focusing on something else. Try to engage in activities that keep your hands busy such as exercising, writing, cooking, or whatever hobby rejuvenates you. Personally, cleaning is my way of getting my mind off of things when I find myself touching my hair too much. 

Not sure if you have hair in hands syndrome? Take this quick quiz.

How do you prevent putting your hands in your hair?

Why You Really Need to Clean Your Combs & Tools (And How to Do It)

Do you remember the last time you cleaned your combs, brushes, and hair clips? Cleaning your hair tools and accessories is often an overlooked practice, but it is actually very important that this is done on a regular basis. It prevents product buildup and bacteria growth while keep your hair clean. Every day that you go without cleaning your hair tools and accessories is another day that you are putting dirt and particles back into your hair. 

Why clean your hair tools?

Your hair tools and accessories come in contact with your hair, products, and the everyday elements. Hair tools collect dirt, dead skin, and buildup on a daily basis. Hair tools tend to get ignored, because sometimes we’re so busy caring for our hair that we forget to wash our tools. Clean hair tools will ensure that you are not adding any more particles or residue back to your hair after washing.

We spoke with Kyra Allen-Brown, a licensed cosmetology educator at Chicago Curl Collective, and she said “There is a saying that you are only as good as your tools, therefore you have to take care of them.” Kyra uses 99.9% alcohol to sanitize her tools between clients. She also told us that, “At the end of the night it is definitely important to drop your tools, such as combs, into barbecide to ensure that you are cleaning your tools effectively.”

How to clean your hair tools

Here are a few tips on how you can clean your hair tools at home.

  1. Remove debris – Use a toothpick or your fingers to remove as much hair as possible from your tools. 
  2. Soak – Soaking your tools in warm water with dish soap or a clarifying shampoo will help to soften and remove dirt, debris, and product buildup. 
  3. Use a toothbrush – After you finish soaking your tools, use a toothbrush to clean the remaining debris from the tools. Rinse when finished.
  4. Dry your tools – Use a cloth or paper towels to dry your tools. When drying brushes make sure to lay the bristles downward on the towel to prevent the water from sitting in the bristles. This will help prevent the water from loosening the bristles and housing bacteria. You can also use a blow-dryer to expedite the process.

If you are using any wooden tools or accessories, avoid soaking your tools for long periods of time to prevent cracking.

Do you clean your hair tools and accessories on a regular basis?

Read next 5 Tools That Make Natural Hair so Much Easier and 5 Hair Tools you’re Probably Using Wrong.

These Hairstyles are NOT Toddler Friendly

If you are a parent of a toddler, then you know that caring for your child’s hair is much different than caring for your own curly hair. Toddlers’ hair tends to be fragile, which means it needs to be handled with care. As a mom of a two-year-old toddler who has a head full of hair, I learn the best ways to care for and style her curly hair every day. It can be tough trying to determine what style is best for your toddler, but it’s important to avoid certain hairstyles that may not be a good fit for your child’s hair. You may not think about it, but these hairstyles may not be a good fit, because they may put too much stress on the hair and scalp. 

Styles with a lot of extensions

Toddlers are very active and sometimes protective styles seem like the only means to avoid daily maintenance for some parents, but if the style requires too much hair to be added, this can add stress on the hairline and even crown. If you plan to do protective style on your toddler’s hair, just make sure use lightweight extensions that will not causes pulling, breakage, and potential migraines.

Tight Ponytails and Puffs

In 4 Things that are Breaking Your Child’s Hair I addressed how, when used too tightly, rubber bands can cause breakage. Styles with too many ponytails and accessories that pull on the hair may not be good for toddlers. If you are creating a puff or ponytail, make sure that it is not repeated for too many days in a row. Repeated high puffs or ponytails can lead to thinning edges. Remember that too much of anything is bad. Make sure their edges flourish by switching up the style every week.

Tight French Braids

If done correctly, braids are a great option. When installed too tightly, they can irritate damage the scalp and cause breakage. If your child’s scalp is turning red or you see inflammation, that means it is irritated and probably hurts. Be gentler and don’t stress the flyaways and frizz.

Overall, you want to create simple hairstyles while also being cautious about causing breakage and damaging your child’s scalp.

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The Easy Way to Care for Your Toddler’s Hair at Bedtime

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People stop me all the time to ask questions about how I care for my daughter’s curly hair. She is two years old with a head full of curls. I’m always asked how my daughter’s hair grows so long and how I preserve it overnight. There is no secret science to what I do to maintain her healthy hair. I simply created a healthy hair regimen that includes a bedtime routine for her curls that I follow consistently. The most crucial step in the regimen is the bedtime routine, so it is important that it is not overlooked. Do you currently have wash day down, but need help with a bedtime hair care routine for your curly kid? Incorporate these three steps.

Step 1. Keep the curls moisturized

This is such an important step that it’s almost always missed, especially at bedtime. When caring for your curly kid’s hair you want to make sure that you are always keeping their hair moisturized. Moisturize your little one’s curls every single night by just spritzing the hair with a little water, or create your own DIY mixture of water and leave in. I like to use water mixed with my favorite leave-in conditioner, Mielle Organics Organic White Peony Ultra Moisturizing Leave-In Conditioner. It is lightweight and chock-full with moisturizing ingredients such as coconut oil and jojoba oil to help your hair retain the moisture it needs. You can also do this if your child’s hair is in a protective style.

Step 2. Protect hair with satin bonnet, scarf, or pillowcase

Using a bonnet on your child’s natural hair will prevent it from drying out. My daughter actually loves wearing her satin bonnet at night. If not protected, our curlies hair can rub against cotton pillowcases, which can cause friction, leading to breakage and dry hair. We never go to bed without our satin bonnets on. If you find that your little one’s bonnet does not stay on at night, try replacing her cotton pillowcases with satin pillowcases. Sometimes those bonnets fit too tightly on their heads and cause discomfort. This is an effective alternative to the bonnet. Although deciding to forgo the satin scarf or bonnet will not preserve the style as long, at least their hair will not be dry.

Step 3. Stay consistent

The key to any successful regimen is to stay consistent. If you stay consistent with your child’s bedtime regimen, it will keep you on track. Start introducing bonnets and scarves at an early age, because your child will get used to them and it won’t be foreign to them as time goes on.

What do you use on your toddler’s hair at bedtime?

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5 Kid-Friendly Protective Hairstyles with Extensions

Parents don’t always have a lot of time to style their children’s hair on a daily basis. Protective styling is a great option and offers the benefits of being low maintenance, helping with length retention and saving time. For some parents, protective styles require extensions to be added to the hair. This can be because the child’s hair is not long enough or thick enough for the desired look the parent wants to create. As a parent looking to explore more styling options that are gentle for your child and easy on your schedule, consider these five kid-friendly protective styles.

Twist and bun

This is a very cute protective style option for your child’s hair. It is easy to create and does not take a lot of time. For this style you will use Kanekalon braiding hair. You can also add to the style with a cute headband or bow.

Cornrows and twisted style

For this style, Marley braiding hair is used. The hair is braided to the side with extensions added. If you want the hair to look curlier you can add the perm rods, but perm rods are optional.

Crochet braid French twist ponytail

Crochet braids are a very cute style on both kids and adults. This style showcases French braids that are braided into a bun with twists crocheted around the bun to create a ponytail. This is a very cute and kid-friendly protective hairstyle option for kids.

Crochet braid layered curls

This cute style is ideal for younger children. For this style you will use soft dread hair and cut it in half and then crochet it in, leaving space in between, so that it is not too full and heavy. Don’t forget to separate the curls for added volume.

Havana mambo twists

Havana mambo twists are another style option for your little one. For this style the hair is French braided all over. The twists are then crocheted into the back half of the hair only, leaving some French braids at the top and twists in the back.

Caring for Your Child’s Protective Style

Remember that low-maintenance hairstyles still require some maintenance. Be sure to keep the scalp moisturized by spritzing it with a leave-in conditioner or braid spray. Also remember to protect the hair at night with a satin scarf, bonnet, or pillowcase, so that the style lasts and also to prevent breakage.

Check out 4 Things I never use on my child’s hair.

With different styling options available will you try out extensions on your child’s hair?

4 Things that are Breaking Your Child’s Hair

As parents of children with curly hair, we use countless tools and accessories for our children’s hair, even some that may be damaging. Unfortunately, you may be unknowingly contributing to the breakage. The tools and accessories may be things we don’t even think will be a problem, such as combs, barrettes, and rubber bands. Is your child’s hair breaking along the edges and nape and not retaining length? Consider doing away with these six tools and accessories for your little ones.

Barrettes

We all want to accessorize our children’s hair, but sometimes if barrettes are not used correctly, they can pull and break the ends. Small babies and toddlers are known to pull at their hair, so barrettes on the ends are not a good idea. Wait until your child is at the age where they will no longer pull on their hair, reducing the amount of breakage.

Tight headbands

I know that headbands are cute for young girls, but if too tight, they could pull strands along the hairline and cause breakage. Be mindful that hair along the edges tends to be finer and therefore more fragile than hair in other sections. Many hair accessories, including headbands, now put the recommended age range on the packaging, so that you are able to determine the correct size.

Styling combs

Different styling combs could also be the culprit that is breaking your child’s hair. Sometimes parents don’t know the proper combs that should be used for detangling versus styling. Detangling with a rat tail comb causes breakage and styling with a detangling comb will not provide polished results. The tangle tamer is an excellent tool for detangling children’s hair. Rat tail combs are used for styling and creating clean parts while detangling combs have wide teeth for gently unraveling knots.

Rubber bands

If used too tight, some rubber bands can pull the hair. They are known to pull hair too tight and strands get easily tangled around them. If you have used rubber bands on your hair before, you know that removing them can be a nightmare. There can be lent and tons of shed and broken care. Always remove with scissors to prevent more tangling and broken strands. A great alternative for rubber bands is Ouchless elastic band.

What are you favorite accessories and tools that don’t break your child’s hair?

Read next 4 Things I Never Use on My Childs Hair and learn about 7 Natural Curly Hair Kids Products That You Will Feel Great About Using.

How to Get More Out of Your Hairstyle

Are you stuck with only being able to get one day out of your hairstyle and you’re tired of dealing with it? Are you looking at other naturals and wondering how they are getting their hair to last multiple days? I have been there trust me. Trying to figure out how to get your hairstyle to last multiple days can be frustrating, especially when you have spent all day washing, prepping, and then styling your hair to only have it last one day. Here are a few tips to help you get the most out of your natural hairstyles and make them last longer.

It starts before you style

You want to make sure you hair is properly cleansed before styling, because your hairstyle will last longer on clean hair than dirty hair.

After washing your hair, don’t skip the deep conditioner. It plays a vital role in the longevity of your natural hairstyle. You want to make sure your hair is properly moisturized, so that it lasts. Dry hairstyles are known to have less life and more frizz than moisturized hairstyles.

Set your style

Products also play a major role in how long your hairstyle will last. Make sure that you are setting your hair while it’s wet to achieve the best definition. Use enough product to coat your hair, but not too much to weigh down your hair. Also, you want to make sure your hair is completely dry before you take it down. I love EdenBodyworks Coconut Shea Curl Defining Crème right now for my twist-outs and braid-outs. I have gotten up to seventh-day hair using this product.

Leave your twists in longer

I know that sometimes we have to do our hair quickly overnight, but if you are doing your hair on the weekend with nowhere to go, try leaving your twists or braids in longer. This will make your style more defined and help it to last longer because of the definition. Give it a try next time you are doing your hair over the weekend.

It can be a lengthy process, but the results are too good for me to stop doing it.

Preserve it at night

This is one of my major keys to making my hairstyles last. When my hair was longer I would always pineapple my hair at night which helped me keep my style longer. There are many techniques that you can use on your length of hair to ensure that your hair lasts. Check out this article on how to pineapple hair for any length.

Now that my hair is shorter, to get the most out of my hairstyle I retwist every night. It can be a lengthy process, but the results are too good for me to stop doing it. I just spritz my hair with a mixture of a little water and some almond oil and re-twist in medium sections.

Get two out of one

When you are not ready to give in and wash your hair, rock a high bun. This is how I get two styles out of one. I will rock a twist-out for a few days and then wear my hair in a high bun for a few more days until I am ready to wash my hair.

How are you getting the most out of your hairstyle?

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4 Things I Never Use On My Child’s Hair

Caring for your child’s natural hair can be a journey. You spend so much time learning about your own natural hair, what products and styles work for you, and now you have to do the same for your child’s hair. Believe me I know the struggle is real, but it’s totally necessary when caring for your child’s hair. My overall goal for my daughter’s hair is to use products that are not harsh and make sure that I practice low manipulation styling. I focus on the heath of her hair over anything else. 

I began really focusing on the styling of my daughter’s natural hair when she was about 18 months old. Before then, there was not really much to do to her hair. I didn’t use many products before then. Her routine was simple, which included washing with a mild baby shampoo and applying a little oil to her hair afterwards. I brushed it with a soft brush and that was it. She is 2 years old now and I have developed a regimen that incorporate products. I always get tons of questions about what I use on my daughter’s hair, but it’s equally important to know what I avoid.

Products with harsh ingredients

I use the entire EDENBodyworks Kids line on her hair. None of their products contain harsh ingredients. I don’t use any shampoos with sulfates that are drying to textured hair. EDENBodywork products work well for her hair, as her hair continues to retain length and maintain its health.

Certain hair accessories

I am not a fan of using a lot of hair accessories on my daughter’s hair. I only like to use headbands and ouch-less bands for her ponytails. I never like to put any barrettes or objects on the ends of her hair. Accessories can cause breakage to children’s hair and should be avoided if possible, especially along her edges. I try to keep it simple and cute.

Harsh gels

I prefer not to use gels with extreme hold on my child’s hair. I feel that gels with an extreme hold are too harsh for her hair and will make it very hard. To hold her styles in place I use EDENBodyworks Coco Shea Berry Natural Smoothing Gel. It doesn’t have harsh ingredients like some of the holding gels on the market for adults and it gives her styles a smooth finish.

Heat

I do not use any heat on my daughter’s hair. I also don’t use a blow-dryer or any tools that require heat. She is only 2 years old and I don’t think I will be using heat any time soon. I want to avoid heat damage by all means. Heat is not on my radar for the styling of her hair at this stage.

What products or tools are a no-go for your little one’s hair?

5 Ways to Prep Your Child for Wash Day

Preparing your child’s hair days before washing it makes the process easier for you and your little one. The best way to learn how to prep your child’s hair is by trial and error. Like any task that includes a toddler, you just have to have patience. Try to make sure your child is distracted during prep time as well as the wash session. Distractions just make everything so much easier. You can use a tablet or even sing-along. Consider these tips for your next wash day.

Pre-poo

Pre-pooing has so many benefits for your child’s hair. Simply apply a little oil (like grapeseed oil”> to your child’s hair the day before wash day to help release tangles. Grapeseed oil is amazing, because it helps lock in moisture and contains vitamin E, restoring shine to the hair. Sometimes their hair can become dry during the colder months, so it really helps keep it moisturized. 

Apply water/leave-in conditioner

You can also mix water with a leave-in conditioner and apply it to her hair to help with detangling. You never want to detangle your child’s hair while it is completely dry. Although hair is strongest when dry, it is easier to manipulate when damp, reducing the risk or amount of breakage. This also reduces tension on the scalp which means less tears.

Detangle

To prepare for wash day, you should make sure that your child’s hair is somewhat detangled before you get started on wash day. Detangling prior to wash day makes helps to reduce the chances of matting when her curls are activated with water. Pre-pooing goes hand in hand with the following step.

Part hair in sections

Once you finish detangling your little one’s hair, part it into four sections and braid it loosely to prepare for wash day. This helps to thoroughly rinse out product, buildup, and shed hair. Sectioning also helps to reduce breakage and expedite the washing process.

Have fun

Have fun preparing for wash day. It doesn’t have to be a daunting task. Make it a fun game! Sing a song or hide all of the tools and let your little curlie find them. Use it as an opportunity to give her your undivided attention. Keep her engaged and not be afraid of wash day. Explain the process as you go from step to step. If we teach our kids that wash day is fun and exciting, you can ease their fears over time. Now let’s have some fun and get to wash day with ease!

How to you prep your child for wash day?

Read next what did and didn’t work for my toddler on wash day.

What Did & Didn’t Work for My Toddler

Wash days don’t have to be a challenge if you find what works for your child. Over the past two years I have learned a lot about not only my toddler, but also her hair. You should take time and learn about your child’s hair, so that you are able to take care of it, keep it healthy, and then pass those skills on as your child gets older. If you are a parent or guardian of a toddler with textured hair, then you know that hair care and styling can be a battle, but I have learned a few tips that make her hair care a little easier.

Where to wash her hair

When my daughter was a small baby I was able to wash her hair in the bathtub. At that time she didn’t have as much hair as she does now, so it was easy just to shampoo it in the tub and rinse. Now that she is two, we have since moved our wash days to the kitchen sink. I lay her on her back and prop a pool noodle under her neck for support. That’s my little hack for washing your child’s hair in the sink. It’s definitely easier for her to lay back and get her hair washed and rinsed versus the bathtub as a toddler. We have fewer tears and it’s less stressful for me.

How to keep her busy

As we know children don’t like to sit still for a long period of time and wash day is no different. Distractions will help to get your little one through the process. I don’t know about you, but my daughter doesn’t like to get her hair washed at all. In order for us to successfully get through wash day smoothly, she needs a distraction. I have found that she will cooperate if she is able to watch her favorite show on her tablet. I am able to get through washing and styling all while she is watching Peppa Pig on YouTube.

Styling

I found that washing and styling at night didn’t work well for us. She would be really tired and fussy so it was never a success. Now I set aside wash day for the morning immediately followed by styling. I find it easier to get wash day over with early in the morning when we are both energized. I usually do mini twists on her hair for styling, because they can last up to a week without restyling. When the twists get old, I just untwist them and she wears a twist-out or a puff until wash day rolls around again. I typically wash her hair once a week. This routine works for us, but you may find it is easier to wash and style on a biweekly basis.

Nighttime routine

Since my child was a small baby I have always protected her hair with a satin bonnet at night. I figured we would start early with this routine, so that she would be used to it by the time she was a toddler. She actually likes wearing it to bed, because we have a matching set. I purchased our bonnet set from Ebonicurls. You must teach your child that it’s important to protect her hair at night. It’s fun and I love the look on her face when it’s time to put on our bonnets.

What did you find did or didn’t work for you and your child on wash day?

How to Be Gentle with Your Child’s Hair

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Caring for and styling our children’s natural hair can be a daunting task. I am two years in and still learning how to take care of my daughter’s hair every day. Wash day can sometimes be an all-day adventure. It can consist of kids not sitting still and meltdowns that are difficult to get through. No matter the circumstances of wash day, it is important that we remain gentle when caring for our children’s natural hair. You want to keep your child’s hair healthy and thriving. I have learned that it is super important to be gentle, because children’s hair and scalps are fragile. Here are a few ways that I am gentle when washing and styling my daughter’s natural hair.

Detangle in sections

Detangling is not something that can be rushed through or looked over. Yes the task is a tough one for both parties, but it must be done. Detangling my daughter’s hair in sections has made my life and wash day so much easier. On wash day I separate my daughter’s hair into four sections and add conditioner to her wet hair. The conditioner helps add slip and makes the process much easier. Never detangle your child’s hair while it’s dry. To release tangles I use a Tangle Tamer or a wide tooth comb to help ease the tears and remove knots. Always detangle from the ends to roots, starting off slow and not being overly rough.

Moisturize often

Moisture is the key to everything. Keeping your child’s hair moisturized can help with the styling process. Water-based moisturizers will help to keep your child’s hair soft and manageable. You will be able to easily detangle and style your child’s natural hair if you keep it properly moisturized. I use water daily and apply a light moisture mist or milk to her hair daily for maintenance.

No tight braids or styles

I do not create tight braids or hairstyles on my child’s hair. Tugging and pulling can cause breakage and damage your little ones’ edges, because their hairline is very sensitive. When creating hairstyles, make sure that you are being gentle and not braiding your child’s hair too tight to prevent tension around the edges of the hair. I prefer to create protective styles such as medium twists that can be worn for multiple days. This helps to prevent over styling and too much manipulation.

Protect their hair at night

It’s also important to protect your child’s hair at night so that it doesn’t get matted or tangled. Satin bonnets help to protect the hair at night so that when you get to wash day, you won’t have a hard time detangling matted hair.

How are you gentle with your child’s hair?

What is A Hair Vitamin?

Hair vitamins seem to be the talk of the town these days. Have you ever wondered what a hair vitamin actually is, and how they differ from regular multivitamins? I had the opportunity to talk to the brains behind some of the popular hair vitamins on the market. I spoke with Monique of Mielle Organics (MO”> and Stefanie of Hair Minerals (HM”> to ask them about the popular hair vitamins.

What is a hair vitamin?

MO: A hair vitamin is a vitamin formulated to support healthy hair growth.

HM: Hair vitamin is a group of organic compounds that are essential for normal growth and nutrition.

How are your hair vitamins different from multivitamins and prenatal vitamins?

MO: While our vitamins are formulated to promote healthy hair growth, they also have many of the same ingredients found in a multivitamin.​ Additional daily vitamins are not needed since our vitamins provide these nutrients.

HM: A hair vitamin contains specific vitamins that are only absorbed by the cells in our hair follicles and cuticles (with some others that are good for our overall health as well”>. All hair types can only benefit from getting the extra nutrients and your outcome is not only thicker stronger hair, but also an improved complexion, nail growth, and nail strength with less chipping.

What should customers expect and when should they expect results?

MO: ​Customers can expect to see growth, thickness, and less shedding within two weeks to 30 ​days.

HM: Customers should expect healthier hair, skin, and nails. Vitamins must be taken regularly and consistently to see results. We recommend at minimum three months of continued use.

What are some side effects of your hair vitamins if any?

MO: As long there are no allergies to any of the ingredients, there should be no adverse reactions while using our vitamins.

HM: We have no side effects reported as the ingredients are all water soluble and approved. Every individual ingredient is separately sold over the counter and FDA approved. Each ingredient metabolizes into one another in a specific way your body absorbs them, so they are all important.

What happens if someone stops taking your hair vitamins?

MO: If use of the vitamins is discontinued, the hair will revert back to its initial growth rate.

HM: If someone stops taking the vitamins, it will simply just return your hair growth rate to what it’s been prior to taking the hair vitamins.

What are some of the most effective ingredients in your hair vitamins?

​MO: The most effective ingredients in our vitamins is within our proprietary blend formulated with amino acids and herbs that work to improve ​hair texture, hair ​quality, and hair ​growth. This blend also increases hair growth while strengthening and thickening each strand. ​

HM: All the ingredients in Hair Minerals are equally important, as they all play a specific role; however the folic acid and the BCAA’s (branched-chain amino acids”> play a key role, as they metabolize into a specific protein that only absorbed by the hair follicles.

After learning more about what hair vitamins are and what they do, would you consider taking hair vitamins?

What’s your experience with hair vitamins?
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What’s the Difference Between Protein Deep Conditioners & Moisturizing Deep Conditioners

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One thing I’ve learned from years of experimenting with my hair is that your deep conditioner should always remain in your regimen. I am big on deep conditioning and I feel that it is definitely essential in any season. Let’s take a look at the two types of deep conditioners, protein deep conditioners and moisturizing deep conditioners and which one may be right for you.

Why do you need to deep condition?

I have had several naturals tell me that they don’t deep condition often and I give them a blank stare. Girl you need to be deep conditioning your hair on a regular basis! Deep conditioning is a very important step in your natural hair regimen and should not be overlooked or rushed through. Deep conditioning helps to moisturize and strengthen your hair, protecting it from breakage and everyday styling. If you are a natural that has color-treated hair or any type of damage, then you definitely want to learn about deep conditioning your hair on a regular basis.

What is a protein deep conditioner?

Protein deep conditioners are used to infuse our hair with hydrolyzed protein and sometimes ceramides. If you have color-treated hair or show signs of dry brittle hair, then you need to try a protein deep conditioner. Protein deep conditioners are also referred to as treatments because they help strengthen weak strands and increase the elasticity of our natural hair and appearance of your hair. Protein deep conditioners should only be done once every 2-4 months. I like to use Mielle Organics Babassu Oil & Mint Deep Conditioner when I need to use a protein deep conditioner on my hair.

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What is a moisturizing deep conditioner?

Moisturizing deep conditioners are used to help attract condition and moisture to our hair. Moisturizing deep conditioners will contain water as a first ingredient. My favorite is TGIN Honey Miracle Hair Mask. I use a moisturizing deep conditioner every week paired with my steamer. I can tell you that I have noticed a major difference in the moisture of my hair by using a steamer. Nadling Pollard master stylist at Salon Pressure says, “Deep conditioners are an awesome tool for replenishing or rebuilding the hair. Moisture masques are useful in the colder and dryer seasons of the year. Some people have [a hard time moisturizing] hair, so these conditioners tend to be heavier and very useful.”

You should really take a look at your regimen and the state of your hair before deciding which deep conditioner is right for you. I deep condition with a moisturizing deep conditioner at least once a week. I only deep condition with a protein deep conditioner every few months, because it is not needed as often. It is important to choose a protein treatment depending on the state of your hair health. Here’s our full guide to choosing the best protein treatment for you.

Which type of deep conditioners do you use?

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